[blParent] Attaching a bell to a crawling baby

Thu Oct 31 13:16:14 UTC 2019

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On 10/31/19, Michael Bullis via BlParent <blparent at nfbnet.org> wrote:
> I always had the bell idea in the back of my mind while in the house but as
> it turned out I could hear where my daughter was and only occasionally used
> it.  I walked a lot without shoes on in the house so even if I touched her
> with my foot it wasn't a big deal.  Mostly, the rule applies--if they're
> quiet, they're into something they shouldn't be.  As they get older the
> trick is to know if they're quiet because they're reading a picture book or
> some such thing.  I kept a lot of contact but my rule was that my daughter
> had to have the same freedoms as if I weren't blind.  In the yard she did
> have shoes with bells on.  I often sat between her and the edge of the yard
> so if she started heading toward the street I could head her off.  As
> someone else has pointed out, you shouldn't have to have a sighted person
> around at all times.  It sends a bad message to your child that you're
> somehow not capable of being her parent.  Like many things about blindness,
> doing the right thing sometimes does take more work.  Keeping closer.
> Paying more attention.  Listening and touching.  But, it was all so
> wonderful.  I'd never trade the experience.
> When my daughter was about 3 or so, I tried to explain to her that I
> couldn't see.  At first she didn't understand what that meant exactly so I
> talked in terms of my eyes not working.  So, she thought about it and came
> to me a day or so later and told me she had decided I wasn't blind.  I asked
> her why and she said, "Because you do everything for me that mama does."
> And, it was true.  I had pretty much figured a work-around for using vision
> for everything.  Now she's seventeen (just yesterday), and she's a
> wonderfully competent young lady.  She thinks that most people ask stupid
> questions about blindness and that it just isn't a big thing.  She can't
> understand how it would be.
> Good luck in your parenting.  It can truly be as wonderful for a blind
> parent as for a sighted parent.  Yes, parenting is scary sometimes because
> kids don't come with an instruction book and parenting is really on-the-job
> training, but hey, hundreds of millions have done it before you so jump in,
> the water's fine.
> Mike Bullis
>
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: BlParent <blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org> On Behalf Of Dacia Cole via
> BlParent
> Sent: Thursday, October 31, 2019 8:53 AM
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> Subject: Re: [blParent] Attaching a bell to a crawling baby
>
> My only concern about using a bracelet of bells on their wrist or ankle  is
> that they are more likely to put them in their mouth which could lead to
> them choking on them. If they are pinned to their clothing, it is much
> harder for them to get a hold of them. As for having someone always watching
> where they are, I don’t believe that is necessary. As others have stated,
> just walk carefully, and yes, you might touch them with your foot or
> accidentally lightly step on them, but every parent, even cited parents step
> on or accidentally trip over their children, because, they like to get under
> foot.
>
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>
>> On Oct 30, 2019, at 8:27 PM, sheila leigland via BlParent
>> <blparent at nfbnet.org> wrote:
>>
>> When my son was a baby it would have been imposible to have a sighted
>> person always around when he was not in a playpen crib or swing. Our
>> pediatrician was wonderful and reminded me that Mark needed the
>> freedom to explore his surroundings and that he couldn't and shouldn't
>> be kept in a secluded emviornment. We developed age appropriate
>> guidelines and trudsted ourselves to keep him safe. I'm  not saying
>> din
>>
>> t seep the baby safe but allow him to grow and trust yourselves to be
>> capable parents. My husband and I are totally blind and it can be done and
>> done well.
>>
>>> On 10/29/2019 2:31 PM, Tony Malykh via BlParent wrote:
>>> Sharon,
>>>
>>> Has it ever happened to you that you kicked your son accidentally while
>>> walking?
>>>
>>> Right now we try to have pretty strict rules in our home to always have a
>>> sighted adult watching over the baby and letting me and my wife know
>>> every time the baby crawls out of the playmat. But it actually requires a
>>> lot of energy to always keep thinking where is baby right now. So I'm
>>> thinking about relaxing the rules and I'm curious how safe it would be if
>>> we let the baby crawl wherever he wants and we just follow your advice to
>>> walk carefully.
>>>
>>> And I guess, even if I kick the baby, that wouldn't do much harm
>>> (relatively), but I'm more worried about tripping over and falling on
>>> him.
>>>
>>>> On 10/28/2019 11:19 AM, Sharon Howerton via BlParent wrote:
>>>> Tony, one of my students said they used to pin a bell to the back of
>>>> their son's shirt so he couldn't get it off. When my sons were
>>>> young, and they are now in their 30's, I just learned to walk very
>>>> carefully!
>>>> Best of luck!
>>>> Sharon
>>>>
>>>> -----Original Message-----
>>>> From: BlParent <blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org> On Behalf Of Tony
>>>> Malykh via BlParent
>>>> Sent: Monday, October 28, 2019 12:30 PM
>>>> To: blparent at nfbnet.org
>>>> Cc: Tony Malykh <anton.malykh at gmail.com>
>>>> Subject: [blParent] Attaching a bell to a crawling baby
>>>>
>>>> Hello all,
>>>> Our baby has started to crawl around the house, and in order not to
>>>> trip over him, we'd like to attach a bell to him.
>>>> Where is the best place to attach the bell, and how can we attach it?
>>>> Safety pins come to mind, but I wanted to check if there are any
>>>> better suggestions.
>>>> And also, are there any other solutions to this problem? Like maybe
>>>> there is a smart electronic device that only beeps when blind
>>>> parents are approaching...
>>>>
>>>> Thanks!
>>>> Tony
>>>>
>>>>
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