[Ct-nfb] Happy Thanksgiving

Sat Nov 26 16:45:05 UTC 2016

Hi, Eileen and Everyone!

Yes, it could be very demeaning when people treat you like a child.  My relatives are okay with me, but I have more trouble with strangers.  For example, one time my cousin and I were in Costco and we were sampling different foods.  There was one particular item that had a toothpick in it and the person handing out the food said to my cousin, "Tell her there's a toothpick in it," to which I replied, "You already did, mam."  I had a slight smile on my face when I said this, but it's very degrading when people speak to anyone this way.  Then when a friend tries to tell a waitress or waiter what I want, I interrupt her and tell them myself.  Then when the waiter goes away, I just tell them to please not speak for me, but I try to tell them in a nice tone.  They understand and apologize profusely and realize how wrong they were.  I, of course, accept their apology and move on.

There's a way to be assertive and be nice about it, but if they persist, then you have to be more firm with these people.  There's a saying which is "You catch more flies with honey than with vinegar."

Anyway, that's my take on the situation and hope this helps you.

Esther

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> On Nov 26, 2016, at 10:37 AM, stanley torow via CT-NFB <ct-nfb at nfbnet.org> wrote:
> 
> thanks Gary.
> does anyone else have this problem? and how do they handle it without sounding nasty.
> Eileen
> 
> 
> 
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> On Sat, Nov 26, 2016 at 10:13 AM, Gary Allen via CT-NFB wrote:
> 
> You should no reason for that. 
> 
>> On Sat, Nov 26, 2016 at 10:05 AM stanley torow via CT-NFB <ct-nfb at nfbnet.org> wrote:
>> i am glad everyone had a good holiday. we did, but i find that relatives that don't see me too often, treat me like a child, just because i don't have perfect vision. wish i could speak up. nest year i will.
>> Eileen Torow
>> 
>> 
>> 
>> On Fri, Nov 25, 2016 at 09:25 AM, Mary Silverberg via CT-NFB wrote:
>> 
>> Gary & All,
>> Thanks for all the good Thanksgiving wishes. Joe & I also had a lovely day yesterday with family in New Jersey.  We are all very fortunate to have much to eat, & friends and family to share. 
>> Mary
>> 
>> On Thu, Nov 24, 2016 at 11:26 PM, Gary Allen via CT-NFB <ct-nfb at nfbnet.org> wrote:
>> I spent the day with Rob Palaski
>> and his family.  I had a great time, and the goid was really good also. 
>> 
>> On Thu, Nov 24, 2016 at 10:04 PM Nathanael T. Wales via CT-NFB <ct-nfb at nfbnet.org> wrote:
>> Gary and Esther,
>> 
>> Thank you both very much for the Thanksgiving wishes to all of us.  I too,
>> along with my wife and son, spent it with family and had a great time.
>> 
>> Have a great evening,
>> Nathanael
>> 
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>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: CT-NFB [mailto:ct-nfb-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Esther
>> Levegnale via CT-NFB
>> Sent: Thursday, November 24, 2016 9:05 PM
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>> Cc: Esther Levegnale
>> Subject: Re: [Ct-nfb] Happy Thanksgiving
>> 
>> Hi, Gary!
>> 
>> Thanks for the Thanksgiving wishes.  Mine was great and I spent it with a
>> cousin and her family.  We had quite a crowd and wonderful food.  Hope yours
>> and everyone else's was good too.
>> 
>> Take care.
>> 
>> Esther
>> 
>> Sent From Esther's Amazing and Awesome iPhone 7+!
>> 
>> > On Nov 24, 2016, at 11:04 AM, Gary Allen via CT-NFB <ct-nfb at nfbnet.org>
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>> > Hello, Fellow Federationists:
>> >
>> > I hope everyone has a great Thanksgiving. I hope everyone has the
>> opportunity to spend time with the ones that they care about the most.
>> >
>> > Sincerely,
>> >
>> > Gary Allen
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