[Faith-talk] Boy friends, et cetera

[Julie C. Vogt]

I know that when a certain moderator continues to write me off-list and 
think she's the Pope or the only one with God's counsel, I shall just write 
her privately:  Blah, blah, blah for a few lines.


----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Penny Golden" <goldpen at frontiernet.net>
To: "Faith-talk,for the discussion of faith and religion" 
<faith-talk at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Wednesday, November 05, 2008 9:44 PM
Subject: [Faith-talk] Boy friends, et cetera


> Dear Readers,
>
> I read the note asking for prayer for a man who is supposedly a
> hypocrite and was avoiding the writer of the note.
> I am afraid I felt a little sorry for the guy she was writing
> about.  Is it possible that, somehow, she is pursuing this individual
> in a way that is not comfortable for him?
> He doesn't perhaps want to come out and say: could you back off--but
> that may be the way he feels.  Is something embarrassing him about
> the relationship?  Is he feeling somehow entrapped?
>
> I'm sorry to write on such a delicate subject in this manner.  We
> don't have the entire story--and, probably, it is a good thing we do not.
>
> Maybe the boy wants some space.  maybe he has plans to visit the
> parade with someone else.  Maybe, for some reason, he is not
> comfortable with the writer.
>
> My Aunt, a wise old pagan, told me something that I have never forgotten:
>
> She said, "Penny, you must not be so possessive."
>
> I was twelve years old at the time; a friend of mine had promised to
> come over and I was really fretted about it.  Yes, it was a broken
> promise and it was not right of my friend to make a promise and then break 
> it.
>
> But perhaps my wise old Aunt was correct: I was being too possessive
> of my friend.  She might have wanted to pursue something that she was
> uncomfortable for me to be a part of.
>
> I remember how Tom Sawyer would go down-town but he didn't want
> Huckleberry to accompany him on such jaunts.  Huck and Tom were good
> friends--but somehow, his raggedy friend Huck was a bit of a drawback
> in some of Tom's plans and pursuits.
>
> I do have a wonderful group of friends whom, I think, feel
> comfortable with me.  This subject might well be one that needs a
> little airing.
>
> If we force our friends to play with us, at some point, they'll go
> elsewhere, where we can't follow--just to get some breathing room.
>
> Forgive me if I've stepped on too many corns.
>
> On another subject--I've seen so much anger and unkindness in some
> posts that I have just refused to read any further posts from people
> who have hit me that way.  I never thought I would get to the place
> where I would avoid reading correspondence to a list just based upon
> the writer's name--for I'd been so disappointed in what I had read in
> the recent past.
>
> Maybe that's how my letter hits some of our readers.  If so, I'm sorry.
>
> As blind people, we are pretty sensitive to having been discriminated
> against in various situations--only because of the
> blindness.  Sometimes it is true discrimination and it's
> despicable.  Sometimes we have made ourselves so unlovable or so
> nasty or so vociferous that we have made others tremendously
> uncomfortable or embarrassed to be around us.
>
> Thanks for hearing me out.  I don't have a lot of answers--and I
> haven't presented my thoughts too  rationally.  But perhaps someone
> understands something of what I've tried to say.
>
> Kindest regards,
> Penny
>
> P.S. I do hope this subject is not beyond the compass of this list.
>
>
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