[Faith-talk] I am in a great delemma

[Peter Wolfe]

Niel:


    Are you two married? I would assume but am unsure. Maybe go to
your local preacher or a counsuler or temporarily split for a while.
Bringing people in sometimes is helpful. I'm not sure what to think
about diveroce cause it's so common now days. Reigniting the old flame
can be done believe me cause I sort of have blown it out myself two
times in my relaitonship. The God stuff right now I'm confused like
I'm waiting on a sign or a voice telling me that I'm here for you
Peter; it's God here. You know?

On 6/17/10, Neil Vosburgh <ndvosburgh at comcast.net> wrote:
> Hi everyone:  This is Neil and I am seeking some major advice.  My marriage
> is currently in what I call "disaster Mode" and primarily is my own doing,
> but I have a question.  Wouldn't you think that God would bring someone in
> to your life who you are excited about?  I realize many are "called to
> besingle but I don't believe that is the case for me etc.  I know of the
> scripture in the book ofGenesis where God said, "it is not good for man to
> be alone, and I have prayed all my life that He would bring someone whom I
> could love and care for.  Unfortunately, the truth is, I have never been
> excited about Debbie from the beginning but I simply said to God, Lord if
> you will do this for me I would be so grateful etc.  I was forty-two when I
> met and married Debbie and I have been with her seventeen years now.  To
> complicate matters, I have been attracted to other women simply because of
> the attractiveness of their voice etc.  I won't go in to any details here
> except to say, that I know that it is hurtful and very wrong what I have
> done to Debbie.  She says for instance, Practice your singing, but when I
> do, she simply tells me to be quiet, a slightly modified version of that
> statement.  She calls me everything but late to dinner etc.  What can I do?
> I want to love and be loved by Debbie, at least on one level, but it
> certainly isn't happening.  I have a continual ache in my heart because I
> would like to experience the joy, love and intimacy of a lady who  could
> love me for who I am in spite of all my flaws, what the Bible calls "Sin.
> Should I have remained as a single person?  Does God really desire for me
> his best as Jeremiah 29 Verse 11 says.  Please pray that God will help both
> Debbie and I work things out, or that He could bring a positive change, that
> is, that both Debbie and I find compatible mates etc, or that He change my
> heart so that I can love her.  I realize that both Psalm 14 and Psalm 63
> paints the picture that there is indeed "No righteousness in us and that
> only God can cleanse and purify our hearts through the blood of Jesus Christ
> etc.  Thank you for hearing all my ramblings.  Have a great day and I hope
> that things are really joyful and happy for all of you, it certainly isn't
> currently for me.  Neil G. Vosburgh
>
>
>
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