[Faith-talk] some Godly advice

[Jeanette]

my heart goes out to each of you, my mom was hard on me about my weight as 
well.  always insulting me because i was so heavy and looked like my dad's 
family.  the only thing her criticism did was make me eat more, both out of 
rebelion and out of comfort like you said.  i struggled with my weight for 
years until i got sick with thyroid problems and lost a lot of weight, i am 
a short thing, under five feet tall so every pound really matters a lot.
i think the advice you gave Beth is the best i have ever heard.  love your 
mom Beth, pray for her as well as yourself. just shower her with prayer and 
love and do the best you can to love her no matter what.
God created you and He does not make mistakes and He never gives us more 
than we can handle, we just need to learn to lean on Him completely and 
trust His plan is perfect and He will always be there no matter what others 
do to us or no matter how many of them tunr on us, hugs, will be praying for 
you and your mom, Jeanette
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Linda Mentink" <mentink at frontiernet.net>
To: "Faith-talk,for the discussion of faith and religion" 
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Sent: Thursday, April 12, 2012 8:40 PM
Subject: Re: [Faith-talk] some Godly advice


> Hi Beth,
>
> While I was growing up, my mother weighed me every weekend when I came 
> home from a week at school. She would beat me if I gained any weight, and 
> do other things to me as well. She even made me miss a week of school so 
> that she could continue the water-only diet she put me on, except for one 
> small meal at night. The more she beat me and ragged on me, the heavier I 
> got. Why? Probably because I was worried and scared, and eating was my 
> comfort. I was a twin, and my sister died at 6 days old. My mother told me 
> at least twice that God took the wrong one!
>
> Now, my advice to you is, first to pray. Bathe yourself in prayer, and ask 
> God to give you the right words, and to soften your mother's heart and 
> open her ears so that she can hear what you are saying to her. She may be 
> contributing to your depression by her words and actions concerning you. 
> If she wants you to get off the depression meds, she needs to leave you 
> alone concerning your weight, and anything else she's crabbing about. Ask 
> her to help you by loving you, not tearing you down.
>
> Maybe get an exercise bike so that you can ride while at home. You can do 
> that while you listen to a book or whatever. And, if you live with her, 
> offer to help with the housework. That will give you more chances to 
> exercise.
>
> Remember, you are made in God's image, and He created you for a purpose. 
> Love your mom to the Lord.
>
> Blessings,
>
> Linda
>
> At 09:10 PM 4/12/2012, you wrote:
>>Dear All,
>>As I mentioned in a previous email that I was depressed and have chronic 
>>pain, I would like some advice as to how to talk to my Mom and say, 
>>"Please don't tell me to not think about my pain."  I want to be 
>>assertive, but in a Godly way and not nasty.  I often wonder why The Lord 
>>brings people in our lives that don't understand either our blindness or 
>>other problems we may encounter.
>>Beth
>>
>>
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