[Faith-talk] Good Night Message for Tuesday, March 26, 2013

[Paul]

Hello and good day to you all on this Tuesday evening, at least that's what it is here in the Americas.  I hope and pray that, by God's matchless grace and His providential care, that you all had a good day today.  For the rest of you in other parts of the world, I hope that your day is going well.

I know that this week is considered Holy Week, the last week of our Lord's earthly life.  However in today's mail I received the first quarterly issue of "Torch Times" from an organization in the UK called Torch Trust for the Blind, a Christian organization, and in this issue there is an article entitled "Have We Lost the Art of Friendship?" by Marijke Hoek who is Forum for Change coordinator Evangelistic Alliance, rendered as follows:

As I watch a plethora of excruciating performances and eardrum-perforating screeches in the Britain's Great Talent or the X Factor auditions I wonder:  "Don't these people have friends?" Was no one able to speak some "truth in love" and convince them at an earlier stage to explore other avenues in life?

Similarly, do we really need Trinny and Susannah, or Gok Kwan to tell us what (not) to wear? Are there no stylish friends around we can ask? On a more painful note, how is it possible that relations between parents and children so badly deteriorate that it needs intervention by a supernanny? The range of such TV programmes tells us that we need specialists--whereas often we just need good friends.

The Bible portrays friendship as a rich gift and a crucial vanguard for life.  After all, friends speak with a much-needed candor.  Their valuable perspective and sound advice is vital for our growth.  We need a circle of people with whom we can share our aspirations and struggles.  We need friendships marked by openness and vulnerability in which we allow people "in" and hold one another accountable.  Wounds inflicted by them can be trusted--an edge that is missing in a host of shallower contacts.  "A man with many companions may come to ruin, but a friend sticks closer than a brother" (Proverbs 17:17, 18:24, 27:6).

Friendship originates in God.  The Lord would speak to Moses face to face, as a man speaks with his friend (Exodus 33:11).  Jesus models friendship in his relationships with Mary, Martha and Lazarus.  He teaches that friendship is about self-disclosure and fruitfullness.  "I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from My Father I have made known to you." Whereas servants don't know the master's business, friends do.  He chose us as friends--that we may remain in that bond of love, adhere to His words and bear fruit.  Later, He will show the extent of His love in laying down His life (John 15:9-17).

Sociologists have found that never before in Western lifestyle has there been such an erosion of the wide range of relationships.  In a busy lifestyle, we have neglected not only the role of friendship but also of tribe, extended family, fellowship and community.  This narrowing is causing an increased measure of isolation, and, conversely, places a huge strain on marriages--a weight of expectation the institution was never meant to carry.  And, in a context of an increasing rate of marriage breakdown, the only question we are asking is "How can we strengthen marriages?" Whereas, they suggest, we should consider the wider context of such relational poverty and ask ourselves:  "How do we broaden again the wider range of relationships?"

The rich relational tapestry found in the Scriptures shows God's intentions for society.  It's not good for man to be alone.  The inherent incompleteness of our existence causes us to seek community in the form of marriage, family, tribe, friendship, fellowship and society.  We are indeed created for community, the whole rich gamut of it.

We detect the invaluable gift of friendship in David and Jonathan.  Two are better than one.  If one falls down, a friend can help him up.  Though one may be overpowered, two can overcome.  When life grows cold, friends provide a much-needed blanket.  Together they see a good return of their work.  These texts portray the cord of these three strands (Ecclesiastes 4:8-11).  The measure in which we develop good friendships will be shown in the fruitfulness of our life and the quality of such tenacious, loving bonds.  Friends, after all, love at all times and have a particular stickability in times of adversity.

And, finally, the wider world needs our friendship.  We follow in the footsteps of Jesus, "friend of sinners." Research shows that most people find faith these days because they know me.  Or you, even.  Most find faith today because of the people of God who pour their heart, prayers and time out on their friends, disclosing some of the love of Jesus, who, after all, laid down His life for His enemies--that they may become His friends (romans 5:6-11).

And there you have it for today.  I hope that you found this article both interesting and enlightening.  However, one should differentiate between true friends and acquaintances.  A passage in the deuterocanonical book of Ecclesiasticus puts it well:  "May your acquaintances be many, but your friends one in a thousand."

And now may the God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob just keep us safe, individually and collectively, throughout this night or day and especially in these last days in which we live.  Your Christian friend and brother, Paul