[Faith-talk] blindness and faith issues question

[Ashley Bramlett]

Hi,
I agree with Chris here.
Beth, its your decision. I would say no to living long term together. But 
its just a week and you have good logistical reasons to live in the same 
apartment for that time.

So, whatever decision you will make or have made, I hope it worked out and 
you maintained your purity.

Ashley

-----Original Message----- 
From: Christine Olivares via Faith-talk
Sent: Thursday, December 18, 2014 9:35 AM
To: Debby Phillips ; Faith-talk,for the discussion of faith and religion
Subject: Re: [Faith-talk] blindness and faith issues question

Beth,
As I have said, you should do what you feel is right. My husband and I did 
live together before marriage with his mom, and yes, even slept in the same 
bed. Oh dear! Well, we didn’t have any problems staying pure, so I disagree 
that because you are in the same proximity you will just start popping out 
babies. If you do have enough discipline you should be fine. If you do feel 
you are going to be tempted, then have him stay in someone else’s house.

I honestly think people are just assuming it will be tough for you to make 
your own decisions, and that you will be “tempted.” It depends on how you 
value being a Christian, and I don’t say this as blaming you but for your 
own self-examination. Are you a strict Christian or will you do what is 
easier for you? Blake is staying for a week, it’s not like he is living with 
you.

I am more of an open-minded Christian in that sometimes you have to think 
outside the box and not judge anyone at all. You need to do what helps you 
and what is best for you. If you know you will be tempted, do something 
about it. If not, then proceed as planned.

You have many people who are giving you all different opinions, and no 
opinion is gospel. So just take what everyone is saying and do what you feel 
is right.

Have a great day.
Christine
> On Dec 18, 2014, at 2:28 AM, Debby Phillips via Faith-talk 
> <faith-talk at nfbnet.org> wrote:
>
> Beth, I hate to sound like a stick in the mud, but I think your pastor is 
> right.  I know all the practical stuff, I understand.  There's a part of 
> me that wants to say, hey, Blake should be able to stay with you.  But a 
> bigger part of me says, no.  How long is he going to be in Denver? Would 
> it work for him to spend the night at a church member's home? You see, I 
> know how these things work.  Nobody ever "intends" to have sex.  But it's 
> very difficult when two people are together in close proximity for it not 
> to happen.  And Scripture and other spiritual writers talk about "the 
> occasion of sin".  In other words, you need to not put yourself into 
> situations where temptation can lead to sin.  Your pastor is being just 
> that, your pastor.  He is a wise man.  Why not ask him if he has any 
> suggestions as to what you could do so that you could enjoy Blake's visit 
> without putting yourself in to a position where you might give into 
> temptation?
>
> I have been in those situations Beth, and I have to say that I almost blew 
> it.  Plus it's not a great witness for two Christians, male and female to 
> be living in the same house.  People will speculate and think that you had 
> sex whether you did or not.  This is really not a blindness issue other 
> than you need to make different arrangements.  And be thankful that you 
> have a pastor who is looking out for your best interests.    Blessings, 
> Debby and Neena
>
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