[Faith-talk] blindness and faith issues question

[Beth Taurasi]

On that subject, I did maintain my purity.  We're however debating about 
having to live long term together due to two things: work adjustment, me 
being homeless, and having to move back home with family in Florida 
which would make our relationship impossible to have.  Blake doesn't 
want me near Florida and the good old boy network that seems to be 
ransacking things to help us get married.  We want to be married, but we 
are being told otherwise due to family issues with my end of the 
bargain.  The guardianship my parents had is still in effect, and if we 
get rid of it, we could lose a lot.  Fine.  But we have to live long 
term together with his family until we marry.  I see no reason to have a 
separate but "unequal" place for me and Blake to live.  We have to think 
about how we're going to remain close and save money at the same time.  
Florida is no option.
Beth

On 12/27/2014 4:02 PM, Ashley Bramlett via Faith-talk wrote:
> Hi,
> I agree with Chris here.
> Beth, its your decision. I would say no to living long term together. 
> But its just a week and you have good logistical reasons to live in 
> the same apartment for that time.
>
> So, whatever decision you will make or have made, I hope it worked out 
> and you maintained your purity.
>
> Ashley
>
> -----Original Message----- From: Christine Olivares via Faith-talk
> Sent: Thursday, December 18, 2014 9:35 AM
> To: Debby Phillips ; Faith-talk,for the discussion of faith and religion
> Subject: Re: [Faith-talk] blindness and faith issues question
>
> Beth,
> As I have said, you should do what you feel is right. My husband and I 
> did live together before marriage with his mom, and yes, even slept in 
> the same bed. Oh dear! Well, we didn’t have any problems staying pure, 
> so I disagree that because you are in the same proximity you will just 
> start popping out babies. If you do have enough discipline you should 
> be fine. If you do feel you are going to be tempted, then have him 
> stay in someone else’s house.
>
> I honestly think people are just assuming it will be tough for you to 
> make your own decisions, and that you will be “tempted.” It depends on 
> how you value being a Christian, and I don’t say this as blaming you 
> but for your own self-examination. Are you a strict Christian or will 
> you do what is easier for you? Blake is staying for a week, it’s not 
> like he is living with you.
>
> I am more of an open-minded Christian in that sometimes you have to 
> think outside the box and not judge anyone at all. You need to do what 
> helps you and what is best for you. If you know you will be tempted, 
> do something about it. If not, then proceed as planned.
>
> You have many people who are giving you all different opinions, and no 
> opinion is gospel. So just take what everyone is saying and do what 
> you feel is right.
>
> Have a great day.
> Christine
>> On Dec 18, 2014, at 2:28 AM, Debby Phillips via Faith-talk 
>> <faith-talk at nfbnet.org> wrote:
>>
>> Beth, I hate to sound like a stick in the mud, but I think your 
>> pastor is right.  I know all the practical stuff, I understand. 
>> There's a part of me that wants to say, hey, Blake should be able to 
>> stay with you.  But a bigger part of me says, no.  How long is he 
>> going to be in Denver? Would it work for him to spend the night at a 
>> church member's home? You see, I know how these things work.  Nobody 
>> ever "intends" to have sex.  But it's very difficult when two people 
>> are together in close proximity for it not to happen.  And Scripture 
>> and other spiritual writers talk about "the occasion of sin".  In 
>> other words, you need to not put yourself into situations where 
>> temptation can lead to sin. Your pastor is being just that, your 
>> pastor.  He is a wise man. Why not ask him if he has any suggestions 
>> as to what you could do so that you could enjoy Blake's visit without 
>> putting yourself in to a position where you might give into temptation?
>>
>> I have been in those situations Beth, and I have to say that I almost 
>> blew it.  Plus it's not a great witness for two Christians, male and 
>> female to be living in the same house. People will speculate and 
>> think that you had sex whether you did or not.  This is really not a 
>> blindness issue other than you need to make different arrangements.  
>> And be thankful that you have a pastor who is looking out for your 
>> best interests. Blessings, Debby and Neena
>>
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