[Faith-talk] A man or just a male.

[Mostafa]

        Dear all, peace be with you.

Today, I just wanted to ask a simple question.

What is the difference between a man and a male?

Many of us think that they are just two alternative synonyms to the same word.

Yes, that is on the lingual standpoint.

A man is a nown, and a male is an adjective.

  But I am talking on metaphorical terms. 

The male is that virile and vigorous creature which predominantly aims to dominate the female.

It is a persistent battle between the two genders, and who dominates the other ranges from a place to another.

Here in the middle east, for instance, men are often demonstrating their physical strength, devoting to treat their women as obeyers and followers.

Whilst in the western culture, women are often portrayed as mistresses, whilst men ought to be good guys and submissive to  women dominance, .

  Well, I really can see a problem here.

In the west, they tend to constantly advocate for this modern outlook of presenting gender equality.

But when you contemplate on the practical approach, you would not find that plainly leavened.

It has to be neither this, nor that.

Does Islam teach men to be dominants on women?

Well, let us ask the genuine history then.

There is a story of the second Caliph of the initial Muslim State, Omar Ibn-Elkhattab, which vividly reflects on that significance.

  The story is narratively authentic and sufficiently reliable.

It begins with a Muslim man fed up of his wife mistreating him.

She used to shout at him, and he thought this is not appropriate for him as a man.

Thus, he proceeded to complain to Omar Ibn-Elkhattab, who was the principal of the believers at that time, the head of state.

As the man arived and knocked the door, he heard a woman shouting inside the house.

He recognized that this  Omar’s wife shouting at him, so he just turned over and went away.

  Omar heard the door knocking, so when the fight was over, he yelled at the man to comeback.

The man returned, What was your concern?, Omar asked him.

Oh principal of the believers; please forgive me, it has just been deprived.

Nay, tell me what was your concern, because I will be asked about it on Judgement Day.

I came to complain to you about my wife mistreating me, the man said.

Omar may Allah be pleased with him responded with a golden sentiment.

Listen men, listen to what Omar said.

“She tidied my bed, she cookked my food, she cleaned my house, and she looked after my children, shouldn’t I be patient with her for some of that”.

Though I don’t expect us to precisely attempt imitating this eminent monition, but at least, we have to critically reconsider the way we treat women today.

Omar Ibn-Elkhattab has already sat the perfect role model for us.

Conceptually, we have to outspokenly confront our problem with that social asperity.

We are really mean in the way we treat women today.

This misbehavior has just got to stop.

Muslim men ought to utterly abandon this enormous discourtesy.

   I hope that was somehow beneficial for everyone.

In the meantime, and until I render another post, stay blessedly in the grace of Allah.

Peace be with you.
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