[Faith-talk] thank you all

[Debby Phillips]

Perhaps you just need distance.  I'm going to tell you about 
something that happened to me recently, and I'll try not to be 
too long-winded.  It's still a bit emotionally raw for me, and 
has not been resolved.  My husband's brother's wife and I have 
had a rocky relationship.  I think it's perhaps that in some ways 
we are alike, so we butt heads.  Or we are so opposite, maybe? I 
don't know.  Anyway, we were dealing with some issues regarding 
our mother-in-law, and I asked a question that obviously she 
didn't like.  Now, I thought that it was a good question, and one 
that needed to be asked.  Now my husband who was observing all of 
this told me that as soon as I asked the question her body 
language changed, and she became angry.  We both said things that 
we shouldn't have said, and when I tried to walk away, she made 
one last comment, which made me so angry that I really lost it.  
That led to some very nasty emails.  Did I act in a Christian 
way? No.  But for now, there is really nothing I can do to fix 
it.  I don't know if I ever will be able to.  I am very sorry 
about what happened, and wish that things could be different.  
But they can't.  Not yet anyway.  Sometimes we need time and 
distance.  My guess is that you'll meet some time, maybe years 
from now, and things will be better.    Blessings,    Debby