[Faith-talk] confronting someone who hurt you-smart move?

[Rex Howard]

I have an audio CD of the book called Bait Of Satan. It is a wonderful
book about forgiveness and how satan uses unforgiveness to cause
discord in the church. It's a really awesome book and is good to read
even if you don't deal with offense. If anyone would like me to upload
it to my site in zipped format, let me know. I won't be able to do it
until this weekend but I'll get it done if there is interest.

On 4/4/15, Maureen Pranghofer via Faith-talk <faith-talk at nfbnet.org> wrote:
> Hi
> This is so difficult and hard to let go of but forgiveness is the only
> solution.  And it's honestly something we can't do on our own.  Ask God for
>
> wisdom as to how to forgive and how to repent or tun away from the thoughts
>
> of "He's such a jerk" "He hurt me" and "He should apologize."  While you're
>
> doing this ask God to make a way for this to happen for you to see this
> individual as God sees him.  I'm never saying to lie like if the two of you
>
> are brought together you can honestly say "It was very hurtful when that
> happened" but if you say it without anger the presense of God and His love
> will be shining out of you.  Anger kills but love lasts as described in I
> Corinthians 13.
> Maureen
>
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: Vejas Vasiliauskas via Faith-talk
> Sent: Thursday, April 02, 2015 12:11 AM
> To: faith-talk at nfbnet.org
> Subject: [Faith-talk] confronting someone who hurt you-smart move?
>
> Hi All,
> So as the title implies I was wondering about your thoughts on
> confronting someone who hurt you to get some closure.  I
> understand that this does not have to do with God directly but I
> feel that it does in a way.
> A bit of background without getting too far into detail: I had a
> 1 on 1 for school for 5 years starting in sixth grade, and for
> the first three years everything was fine and he was almost like
> another member of the family.  Then he seemed to change and would
> get mad at me for getting lost (I'm working on my O and M) and
> would sometimes swear too.  But I talked to my parents and no
> longer have had to work with him and barely ever see him.  But
> because it was just verbal, nobody could prove anything, so only
> a very select few people, including my parents and God, know or
> care.  Everyone else seems to think that he is wonderful.
> I have not had a full-on conversation with him in two years.  As
> silly as it sounds, I don't like the fact that someone who
> thought of me very highly can just ignore me and feel okay about
> it.  There are things I want to tell him too.  Like how he may
> not have realized it, that he was such a jerk, and that I still
> sometimes have bad dreams about him.  I know that he may not care
> and probably won't apologize, but part of me thinks that if there
> is anything like a sliver of how he used to be, he would be
> horrified to know the after-effects of what he did to me.  And
> part of me hopes that maybe he'll feel a little bit guilty, even
> if just in his head.  I guess I'd also rather have some sort of
> closure, even if he said "I will continue to stand by what I did"
> rather than just  walking past each other and pretending that we
> neither know nor care who each other is.
> I would be greatful for any thoughts on whether or not you think
> I should confriendnnt him.
> Thank you in advance.
> Vejas
>
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