[Faith-talk] some updates on Nick, and my day summarized

[Kendra Schafer]

Hi all! 
Both my sited sister and I had to live with our mom for over a year because we couldn't afford to get our own houses right off the bat after we had to move out of our last homes. I also have a sited boyfriend who lives in Salem. As a result, we don't get to see as much of each other as we want because of his schedule and the simple fact that Molalla and Salem are 45 minutes apart from each other. I get to hear from my friend who lives in a group home just about every day. She doesn't have a boyfriend or an iPhone but she chose not to. When she did have a boyfriend, true, he didn't get to spend the night but he could visit her and vise versa. With all that said, not having an iPhone isn't abusive. Nick might have a dissabillity that doesn't allow him the abillity to use one or he might not have enough money to have one. I would look in to why he can't see his girlfriend. Is it because there isn't any transportation, or is he in a group home that doesn't allow girls to visit. In my book, he should at the very least, be able to see his girlfriend for a few hours during the day or evening. Even bigger than that, what about how and why Nick is there. He might not have all of the skills or the abillity to learn them. Not all people with Autism can live independently. How is he being treated day by day in his group home? Not all group homes are equal. The staff treating Nick like he is some kind of robot is disturbing. I think that group homes should treat their residents like adults or at least fairly and help out when it's needed and allow freedom for them to do whatever they can and want to do. Mind you, I think the whole group home system is totally messed up. So look very closely when getting a closer look. 
Kendra 


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> On Jan 17, 2015, at 8:17 AM, Beth Taurasi via Faith-talk <faith-talk at nfbnet.org> wrote:
> 
> Debbie and all,
> The home lied to me about some of NIck's condition.  Group homes do not have the capacity to really tell the truth about blind individuals.  It is likely that Nick had to take a visually based IQ test, which is not accessible, and could present a very different result than a simple question and answer true false statement test.  I couldn't do said tests, the visual ones, at a mental health center, but I did do a clinical interview.  Guess wht?  There was no cognitive impairment found through the tests we did, though limited in scope.  Therefore, Nick having littel vision might have been found to be "cognitively impaired" due to the visual nature of the test.  I don't know for sure, but it's a possibility.  The group home did the confiscations because they felt Nick was talking to robots or something from what I've been told.  That's probably gonna answer questions.  I'm sorry, but I"ve been accused of doing the same thing, but my justification is that blind folks are scattered across the country.  I"m sorry, those of us in rural towns can probably empathize with this statement.
> Beth
> 
>> On 1/17/2015 6:09 AM, justin williams via Faith-talk wrote:
>> Valid, but yes.  However, done in poor taste upon the heels of extreme
>> rudeness.
>> 
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: Faith-talk [mailto:faith-talk-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Debby
>> Phillips via Faith-talk
>> Sent: Friday, January 16, 2015 9:52 PM
>> To: Andrew; Faith-talk, for the discussion of faith and religion;
>> joltingjacksandefur at gmail.com; faith-talk at nfbnet.org
>> Subject: Re: [Faith-talk] some updates on Nick, and my day summarized
>> 
>> Andrew, there are always two sides to issues.  None of us, except maybe the
>> people DIRECTLY involved know both sides.  Sorry, but
>> this is a valid comment, whether RJ is a pastor or not.
>> Blessings,    Debby
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