[Faith-talk] guilt

[Linda Mentink]

Hi VVejas,

Ask that friend's forgiveness, and move on. You are obsessed with 
this, and that's not good. None of us are perfect while on this 
earth, but spending too much time and energy worrying about this sort 
of thing is stopping you from growing in the Lord. Confess it to her, 
confess it to God, and move on. You didn't do anything intentionally, 
so don't worry about it. Let it go; you did the best you could under 
the circumstances, so don't bother yourself about it. Life must go 
on. Study your Bible and pray daily, and you'll be better for having done so.

Blessings,

Linda

At 07:47 PM 7/30/2015, you wrote:
>Hi,
>I have a question for you all.  You have given me great insight 
>about forgiveness.
>I know it is normal that when you do something wrong or hurt 
>someone's feelings, you feel guilty.  However, I think that at times 
>I can feel Too guilty.  I am not a perfect person and am not 
>boasting, but I actually think that this is unhealthy.
>The best example I can give is that awhile back we had a test, and 
>my friend told me what was on the test without me even asking.  She 
>was just trying to be helpful, but I saw that the test was really 
>similar to what she had told me about.  So even though I didn't get 
>into that much trouble, and was told how it was good that I was 
>honest, my friend had more serious consequences, and I felt horrible 
>that I put her in this situation and told my teacher about the test 
>to save myself.
>Meanwhile, she had no idea that it was me.  I spent a much longer 
>time than I probably should have mulling over this situation and how 
>bad I felt, even thou people said it wasn't my fault.
>I don't like hurting anyone's feelings, to the point that I won't 
>always speak up for how someone can better help me so that I don't 
>make them feel bad.
>So my question is, has anyone had a problem where they feel bad when 
>they've inconvenience anyone at all, or obsess over situations too 
>much? What did you do to stop yourself from obsessing over things? I 
>hope that I'm making sense.
>Vejas