[Faith-talk] updates on my current living situation

Wed Mar 2 21:41:10 UTC 2016

Family is very very important. Whether they are perfect are not in your eyes, they are important. Since no one can be perfect we really have to seriously take a break from them maybe but not write them off completely. But then again there are families who see guardianship for their adult children that do not need this kind of care. I have a close friend whose family treats him the same way it seems besBth's boyfriend is being treated. Just because you want to check is no reason to put guardianshipjust because you want to check is no reason to put guardianship on someone who is perfectly capable of living life on their own successfully if given skills. Sometimes someone else has to stop in and I think that's kind of what Beth is trying to do. Unfortunately she can't do it alone. I know my friends family doesn't like me because I encourage him to do things on his own. His family talk to him into coming home from CCB for a visit and basically is holding him hostage rather than encouraging him to go back and finish out his training. He was almost done too! I know it's so hard to look from another perspective. I want to thank you Papa bear for bringing out your story. That really touched me. I've always known I was blessed because I had family support from the beginning, but your story reminds me more and more of how blessed I am.

The struggle to get married or not, living together and these relationship things are just as challenging for cited is blind. Family issues two are just as tough. My ex-husband was always worrying that his family won't except me because of my disability and not being good at math. You see his parents are both math teachers and he'd heard stories of students they gave them fits. In the end, he got more distant from his family and will drop me off at his parents house for a family celebration letting them bring me home. Is mental health issues did not make him feel comfortable in his family's presence but knew that family was important and I was kind of a spokesperson. His family excepted me just fine though I had to teach them a few things about being blind. Happily, though we divorced I maintain a good relationship with my ex in-laws and my ex-husband. In the long run he has brought him and his family closer together. He still feels uncomfortable, but he is willing to spend time with his family more often. I stayed with my husband for 15 years before we applied for divorce which was his decision. As much as we love each other, we know that we could not live together any longer. There's no need to go through things here, but believe me divorce was not what I dreamed of. Sometimes though it is the best answer. He was not able to be the spouse he wanted to be and knew I needed. 

Mostly we need to pray for Beth and her boyfriend. I have spoken to her on the phone on occasion so I know a bit more what's going on. I have a feeling God is working in   This situation we just don't know exactly how. 

I'd like to hear more for you stories from people. My story is so boring and traditional I have no idea why anyone would want to hear mine.

Ericka Short
"What is right is not always popular; what is popular is not always right."

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> On Mar 2, 2016, at 11:44 AM, andrew edgcumbe via Faith-talk <faith-talk at nfbnet.org> wrote:
> 
> thanks papa bear the thing is this some might consider the bible old
> fationed and stuff but  God never changes so there fore i feel he never
> changes his word to us.  I was through a situation with a girl not long ago
> and stuff actually. The thing was this She wanted me to live with her in
> the worst way yet I let her talk about it for a while and let things  go
> for a while but basically I just p ut an end to the relationship december.
> She wanted to sleep with me in a hotel my parents said  i was with the
> young adult group that night but during friday she got nasty with my
> parents in fact. The thing is this she  had said allot of lies my dad
> called her parents.  The thing is this I found out what she was really like
> under the surface the truth of the matter  is this if you were to meet her
> she would seem nice but  the thing is this she was very  very clingy and
> stuff like that.  she did not even talk to her parents about me.  I not
> sure is if your family is truly that bad or not but maybe your mom or dad
> have a reason behind what they say to you and stuff like that.  you need to
> seek advice from bible beliving christians. what you need to do is you can
> only serve tw you can't serve two masters you either serve god or the
> devil.  Marriage i know it may not always seem that way but marriage
> should bring families together and things  when you mary a boy friend or
> girl friend you mary the family. Family is very important.  The family is
> is the Godly way.  our families may not be perfect  but  we need to respect
> our parents and respect our alders that means respect those who are older
> than we are.  we need to the bible says to honor your parents.
> 
> On Wed, Mar 2, 2016 at 12:12 PM, Poppa Bear via Faith-talk <
> faith-talk at nfbnet.org> wrote:
> 
>> Wow Andrew, you said some very wise things, I am blessed that you can also
>> see the wisdom in Linda's words, Linda may have came off as over stern to
>> some, but I believe that she is just getting to the important bottom line
>> stuff and if a person took her advice then they would more than likely land
>> on their spiritual feet and not on their head and be walking in God's will.
>> 
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: Faith-talk [mailto:faith-talk-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of
>> andrew
>> edgcumbe via Faith-talk
>> Sent: Wednesday, March 02, 2016 7:59 AM
>> To: Faith-talk, for the discussion of faith and religion
>> Cc: andrew edgcumbe
>> Subject: Re: [Faith-talk] updates on my current living situation
>> 
>> i could not have said it better than linda  you need to  not block your
>> family out of the picture family is very very important.  all we can see
>> here is your side of the story  there are always two sides to the story.
>> you need to not get ahead of god and his will. you need to do things god's
>> way.  God's way is not to live together and if you two sleep together you
>> will undefile the bed of God.  you need to seek spiritual council from a
>> pastor or your church you need to first off if you are not in a bible
>> believing church you need to find one we may not like what god says but the
>> bible and God tells the truth as it is and the truth is the reality.  you
>> need to look at things through god first God needs to be put first before
>> your boy friend.
>> 
>> On Wed, Mar 2, 2016 at 11:50 AM, Linda Mentink via Faith-talk <
>> faith-talk at nfbnet.org> wrote:
>> 
>>> Hi Beth,
>>> 
>>> Please be careful what you write here, and watch your language.
>>> Remember, all messages are archived. I know it's rough for you and
>>> your boyfriend right now, but you're very wrong, if in fact you
>>> believe yourself to be a Christian, to live together before marriage.
>>> The Bible tells us to avoid the appearance of evil, and that the marriage
>> bed is not to be defiled.
>>> You're struggles are partly because you are not being obedient to your
>>> Lord, no matter how you rationalize it.. In my opinion, you're going
>>> about this all wrong. Your boyfriend should stay with a church family
>>> temporarily, if possible, and get his finances squared away. Neither
>>> of you will be tempted to enter into the "nowing each other" part of
>>> the relationship before marriage.
>>> 
>>> As to FaceBook, also be careful what you post there as well. Share
>>> privately with a few close friends, and don't block your family..
>>> 
>>> You are allowing people and circumstances to rule over you, rather
>>> than allowing God to work in and through you. We on this list are
>>> praying for you, but God's will won't be done if your will isn't
>>> lining up with His. Be careful how you spend what little money you
>>> have so that you can save for a marriage license. Maybe your pastor
>>> will preside over a private ceremony in the Church when you can afford
>> it.
>>> 
>>> Many of the problems we all have in our lives are partly of our own
>>> making, and we blame God or others for how things are turning out for us.
>>> Please ask God for discernment and His wisdom, and stop plowing ahead
>>> with your own agenda.
>>> 
>>> I continue to pray for you.
>>> 
>>> Blessings,
>>> 
>>> Linda
>>> 
>>> 
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