[humanser] Acknowledge or ignore?

[Mary Chappell]

David,
Thanks for the idea. I did email a thank you note that was more directed to
the supervisor's sense of humor and welcoming spirit. I want to avoid
appearing to be a stalker by sending to many emails so, as of this writing I
have not addressed the issue. Maybe I am projected more into the situation
than need be. I will admit, part of me wishes I had engaged the topic while
I was there, in the moment. I may send a snail mail note of thanks offering
words of gratitude for his offering an arm in an unfamiliar situation and
stating that it is nice to learn a new environment with a seasoned veteran
and I hope that I will eventually be part of the ranks of the veterans. I
might then offer, "If you have any further questions or comments that I may
answer, please do not hesitate to contact me." This way, if there is any
question or issue, I open the opportunity for dialog and, if I am
hyperconscious, I won't prompt undue attention.
Thanks for your thoughts.
Mary

-----Original Message-----
From: humanser-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:humanser-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
Behalf Of David Andrews
Sent: Thursday, March 26, 2009 10:11 PM
To: Human Services Mailing List
Subject: Re: [humanser] Acknowledge or ignore?

You could write him a thank you letter, saying something like I 
enjoyed meeting you .....  I want to thank you for allowing me to 
take your arm during the tour.  This arrangement makes for efficient 
group travel in an unfamiliar area -- although I normally travel 
unassisted with my long white cane.    ..... or something like that.

Dave

At 06:47 PM 3/25/2009, you wrote:
>Hoping you all can help me with a dilemma that may appear silly but, it's
>heavy on my mind.
>Recently, I went to an interview for a year-long, extern training
experience
>at a state psychiatric hospital. I currently work on a psychiatric unit at
a
>research hospital. 7 Other candidates were also there. So, day begins with
a
>panel interview with 2 of the 10 supervisory clinicians with whom I'll be
>working. Following that, there is an group tour where all candidates come
>together to tour the facility, a large, multi unit facility with 6 separate
>wings and a series of locked units and external courtyards.
>
>When the group tour was beginning, the tour guide, another supervisor who
>heads up the assessment tasks and is the Director of Training, asked me if
>I'd like to take his arm and tour the facility. In the moment part of me
>wanted to decline, lest the perception be that I am unable to negotiate the
>facility on my own, but, for efficiency I accepted, thanking him for"front
>row seats". The tour went well, I laughing and joking with the supervisor,
>discussing aspects of the therapeutic milieu, patient challenges, and
>training opportunities. All felt like it went well. Down to the moments
when
>I was leaving the interview and the same supervisor was in the exit way
with
>another candidate who was asking a question. As I was going through the
>supervisor stopped me and asked me to be in touch. Long story short, I felt
>content with the experience, that is, until I reflected on it. I am
>wondering if I should address the sighted-guide issue and my capacity for
>independence and autonomy. Part of me feels like I should, in some way
>emphasize my comfort in negotiating the facility on my own and another part
>of me feels I would be magnifying something that need not be an issue.
>
>I work on a unit and have had no problems in the past... Any thoughts? Do I
>say something or do I leave it alone? They will be interviewing on three
>other dates and will decide on 3 trainees for the next academic year.
>Decisions will be made on April 13. Let me know your thoughts.
>Mary
>
>
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