[humanser] volunteers

[Sandy]

Ericka,

In my family, my second cousin's son was born missing part of an arm.  He 
had therapy from babyhood and, though was given an artificial arm, does not 
use it and he manages to do what he wants. I heard he was a kid and, when a 
relative was expecting, he said, "if the baby is born with one arm, I can 
teach him what to do."

My mom was an anxious, nervous, got depressed, type of person.  She went to 
a mental institution when I was born blind, and spent a year out of school 
when her parents divorced because she was so shook and thought people were 
talking about her and her family.  A year after me, my mom had a premie who 
died, which had her hospitalized at a mental health facility in Vermont.  I 
wasn't supposed to learn anything of her hospitalizations, but I overheard 
her calling a crisis line, saying when she had been hospitalized, then I 
questioned her.  During her initial hospitalization, my dad and I moved to 
my aunt's house and she took care of me while he worked.



Sandy

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From: "Darla Rogers" <djrogers0628 at gmail.com>
Sent: Sunday, January 26, 2014 12:06 AM
To: "'Human Services Mailing List'" <humanser at nfbnet.org>
Subject: Re: [humanser] volunteers

> Dear Ericka,
>
> A former boss began with:  "I grew up in the 'hood."  The gist of
> the whole meeting was that we weren't working hard enough; I usually make
> friends easily and did so there, so I know a good number of my former
> coworkers didn't grow up easy either--in  fact I saw a lot of compassion;
> gentle pushing toward the possible, etc.
> I moved away from family over 40 years ago, so when I had to be
> there three times in about as many months to help my sister with my 
> mother,
> various family members didn't quite know how to act around me, but my late
> sister, also blind, didn't leave until after she graduated high school in
> 1978, and she began public school in junior high; while I only did my last
> two years of high school in public school.
> We have a lot of mental illness on my mother's side; Dad's family
> seems to have had more alcoholism, though I don't know as much about some 
> of
> them but love the ones I do know probably a little more than Mom's side, 
> as
> a few of her family members put on airs even though I'm better-educated 
> and
> traveled more than most of them.
> Darla
>
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: humanser [mailto:humanser-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Ericka
> Short
> Sent: Saturday, January 25, 2014 10:44 PM
> To: Human Services Mailing List
> Subject: Re: [humanser] volunteers
>
> No wonder you went into counseling.  You  wanted to help families to not
> repeat the weirdness you have to put up with.  Your family is so foreign 
> to
> me.  There's about four of us between the two sides that  are in some way
> disabled.  My cousin is ADHD and some other minor issues because he was 
> the
> child of parents with some real issues.  My uncle was an alcoholic and did
> drugs.  My Aunt is visually impaired and Schizophrenic.  A second cousin 
> is
> cognitively challenged. The other two are severely leaning disabled. None 
> of
> us have been "hidden" from family at all.  We are welcome anywhere and we
> look out for each other.  When I married, I began to understand the drama
> though.  Depression, Bipolar, Autism, learning delays/speech problems,
> social anxiety, bad relationships and difficulty keeping a job--it's all
> there somewhere in the history.  Still, I love 'em all!  My mom's family 
> was
> more like yours without the disability issues when she was growing up.  I
> can say  my life was no fairytale as many think because my parents are 
> still
> married to each other and the relatives talk to each other more than once 
> a
> year.
>
> Ericka Short
> 262-697-0510
>
> "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me". Philippians 4:13
>
> "No hand is too small or too big to do good in this world." EJ. Short
>
>
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