[il-talk] [Iabs-talk] Using a cane

[Charlie Dennis]

Hi, Connie,
In general, people assume sameness in group situations. Anything or anyone 
that's different is likely to evoke a rude reaction from them. The shopping 
experience is usually handled the way my little brother handled getting into 
fights when he was a young drinker: "I want to do my damage and get out as 
quick as I can." Sighted people do most things faster than blind people, 
because they think they can get by with it, and when it doesn't work it's 
easier for them to blame you than to own up to their own carelessness. As 
blind people, if we'd purposely disrupt the routine of the first 80 people 
we see each day, their rude reactions would soon not bother us any more. 
Rudeness bothers us because it doesn't happen often enough for us to get 
used to it. If we believe the stuff we get on the internet, the rude guy was 
rude because he's a guy and didn't want to be there in the first place.
charlie
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Hap Holly" <hap at therainreport.com>
To: "NFB of Illinois Mailing List" <il-talk at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Sunday, June 12, 2011 8:26 PM
Subject: Re: [il-talk] [Iabs-talk] Using a cane


Connie, if you wear dark glasses instead of the sunglasses, the lunatic
fringe may catch on.


----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Connie Davis" <condav8950 at att.net>
To: "'NFB of Illinois Mailing List'" <il-talk at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Sunday, June 12, 2011 8:11 PM
Subject: Re: [il-talk] [Iabs-talk] Using a cane


> Dave,
> I am usually wearing sunglasses, so I'm not sure if they can tell if I see
> them or not. But I do try to ignore them.
>
> Connie
>
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: il-talk-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:il-talk-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
> Behalf Of David Andrews
> Sent: Sunday, June 12, 2011 8:06 PM
> To: Illinois Association of Blind Students List; 'NFB of Illinois Mailing
> List'
> Cc: 'Illinois Association of Blind Students List'
> Subject: Re: [il-talk] [Iabs-talk] Using a cane
>
> Connie:
>
> If it were me I would just pretend I don't see them, and go my
> way.  Don't make eye contact, act like you are totally blind, and
> they can't fault you for not moving.  Yes, people sometimes have
> adverse comments about us and our canes etc., and you just have to
> grin and bear it sometimes.
>
> Dave
>
> At 06:48 PM 6/12/2011, Connie Davis wrote:
>>One of my biggest challenges in using a cane is going grocery shopping. I
>>take a grocery cart and pull it behind me while using my cane. For some
>>reason people think that I should get out of their way when I am walking
>>with a loaded cart. They just keep walking right in my path. I had a guy
>>swear at me today because I didn't move. I just ignored him.
>>But I mean, how do you deal with that? It seems that I deal with peoples'
>>rudeness on a daily basis. Sometimes, I feel like they do it because they
>>see the cane and figure I won't know that they've done it.
>>
>>Connie
>
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