[il-talk] child question

[pattichang at att.net]

I think all children go through this at one time or another. Just firmly make it a non-negotiable issue. They will get over it. Teens tend to be embarrassed by their  parents in one way or another. The White  came is just one of many possibilities in this arena.


Patti S. Gregory-Chang
NFBI President
NFB Scholarship Comm. Chair
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On Aug 22, 2013, at 3:05 PM, Bill Reif <billreif at ameritech.net> wrote:

> Hello Rob,
> 
> It's understandable that children don't want to stand out. That's why my son was happy to have me using a cane, rather than using him as a sighted guide, which would have been the only workable alternative. If she knows you can't consistently pass as a sighted person with or without the cane, she will know that your cane lets the public know you are dealing with your blindness independently. It will let the public know that it's not her responsibility to look after you, as they would otherwise assume if your blindness became apparent to them.
> 
> Even with a cane, I sometimes needed to fend off comments, directed to my then five-year-old son, about what a great caretaker he was for me -- this as I was taking him toy shopping. When your daughter knows that the cane represents your taking care of you and isn't about her, she will hopefully be relieved. Also explain that most people don't understand the purpose of the cane, and are staring more out of curiosity these days than out of pity.
> 
> Cordially,
> Bill
> 
> On 8/22/2013 1:39 PM, Rob Kaiser wrote:
>> Hello all. As most if not all of you know, I am a guardian of a nine yearold girl.
>> 
>> Since I have come back out to Socal, and, more than likely, will be staying here, I am spending more and more time with her.
>> 
>> I am, however, incurring a problem: My daughter seems to be imbarrased about the fact that I use a white cane. I along with my x-wife have tried to explain to her that it is a necessity for me to use it.
>> 
>> Has anyone out there come across this problem? If so, can you please help me and give me some suggestions in how to deal with this as I will be spending more and more time with her and in many instances, will be in the public eye with her.
>> 
>> You can email me or call me @ cell#(847)989-0768.
>> 
>> Thanks.
>> 
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