[il-talk] child question
Steven Hastalis
steve.hastalis at gmail.com
Thu Aug 22 20:54:48 UTC 2013
I felt most ashamed about my blindness after I lost what little sight I had
in my right eye, when I was six going on seven years old. The kids on the
school bus accused me of faking, as I walked tentatively and crookedly
toward my house.
For nearly six years, I had frustrating and embarrassing experiences, as a
totally blind boy, walking around without a cane. I felt ashamed because of
my inadequacy, lack of alternative techniques of blindness, and lack of
solutions to my travel problems, as a blind person.
Then, when I started using a cane, certain aspects of travel became so much
more obvious, fluent, safe, efficient and accurate. For example, I found
the line between the sidewalk and grass with my cane, and I no longer had to
slike my foot. I found stairs and curbs up and down ahead of me. I found
the vertical and horizontal spaces between cars and platforms on Chicago's
elevated trains, and I no longer had to fear sliding my foot down that gap.
I still did not use my cane much in school buildings, however, resulting in
some embarrasing moments. I did not use canes in large public buildings
until I started college, primarily because I used my cane outside, getting
to such buildings. I found it easier just to keep using my cane until I
reached my final destination in such buildings.
Cordially,
Steve Hastalis
----- Original Message -----
From: "Bill Reif" <billreif at ameritech.net>
To: "NFB of Illinois Mailing List" <il-talk at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Thursday, August 22, 2013 3:05 PM
Subject: Re: [il-talk] child question
> Hello Rob,
>
> It's understandable that children don't want to stand out. That's why my
> son was happy to have me using a cane, rather than using him as a sighted
> guide, which would have been the only workable alternative. If she knows
> you can't consistently pass as a sighted person with or without the cane,
> she will know that your cane lets the public know you are dealing with
> your blindness independently. It will let the public know that it's not
> her responsibility to look after you, as they would otherwise assume if
> your blindness became apparent to them.
>
> Even with a cane, I sometimes needed to fend off comments, directed to my
> then five-year-old son, about what a great caretaker he was for me --
> this as I was taking him toy shopping. When your daughter knows that the
> cane represents your taking care of you and isn't about her, she will
> hopefully be relieved. Also explain that most people don't understand the
> purpose of the cane, and are staring more out of curiosity these days than
> out of pity.
>
> Cordially,
> Bill
>
> On 8/22/2013 1:39 PM, Rob Kaiser wrote:
>> Hello all. As most if not all of you know, I am a guardian of a nine
>> yearold girl.
>>
>> Since I have come back out to Socal, and, more than likely, will be
>> staying here, I am spending more and more time with her.
>>
>> I am, however, incurring a problem: My daughter seems to be imbarrased
>> about the fact that I use a white cane. I along with my x-wife have tried
>> to explain to her that it is a necessity for me to use it.
>>
>> Has anyone out there come across this problem? If so, can you please help
>> me and give me some suggestions in how to deal with this as I will be
>> spending more and more time with her and in many instances, will be in
>> the public eye with her.
>>
>> You can email me or call me @ cell#(847)989-0768.
>>
>> Thanks.
>>
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