[il-talk] child question

[Dianna Alley]

I get told that my child is a good care taker too.  I just tell them I am 
the parent not her so she is not my care taker.  She is only four.
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Bill Reif" <billreif at ameritech.net>
To: "NFB of Illinois Mailing List" <il-talk at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Thursday, August 22, 2013 3:05 PM
Subject: Re: [il-talk] child question


> Hello Rob,
>
> It's understandable that children don't want to stand out. That's why my 
> son was happy to have me using a cane, rather than using him as a sighted 
> guide, which would have been the only workable alternative. If she knows 
> you can't consistently pass as a sighted person with or without the cane, 
> she will know that your cane lets the public know you are dealing with 
> your blindness independently. It will let the public know that it's not 
> her responsibility to look after you, as they would otherwise assume if 
> your blindness became apparent to them.
>
> Even with a cane, I sometimes needed to fend off comments, directed to my 
> then five-year-old son, about what a great caretaker he was for me -- 
> this as I was taking him toy shopping. When your daughter knows that the 
> cane represents your taking care of you and isn't about her, she will 
> hopefully be relieved. Also explain that most people don't understand the 
> purpose of the cane, and are staring more out of curiosity these days than 
> out of pity.
>
> Cordially,
> Bill
>
> On 8/22/2013 1:39 PM, Rob Kaiser wrote:
>> Hello all. As most if not all of you know, I am a guardian of a nine 
>> yearold girl.
>>
>> Since I have come back out to Socal, and, more than likely, will be 
>> staying here, I am spending more and more time with her.
>>
>> I am, however, incurring a problem: My daughter seems to be imbarrased 
>> about the fact that I use a white cane. I along with my x-wife have tried 
>> to explain to her that it is a necessity for me to use it.
>>
>> Has anyone out there come across this problem? If so, can you please help 
>> me and give me some suggestions in how to deal with this as I will be 
>> spending more and more time with her and in many instances, will be in 
>> the public eye with her.
>>
>> You can email me or call me @ cell#(847)989-0768.
>>
>> Thanks.
>>
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