[il-talk] Tips In Dealing With Family Members

[Rob Kaiser]

You are lucky you live in these times and not in the 50s or earlier. II , 
and probably you too have heard stories about blind and other disabled 
parrents having their babies taken from them at Birth because either the 
hospital or social services felt that a disabled person was unfit in taking 
care of a child.

It seems like you and I Lesslie have gone through similar situations.



-----Original Message----- 
From: Leslie Hamric
Sent: Saturday, December 28, 2013 3:32 PM
To: NFB of Illinois Mailing List
Subject: Re: [il-talk] Tips In Dealing With Family Members



Hi Nick. Oh yes, I have had similar problems with family members at just 
don't get it. Well there been times I have considered cutting all ties with 
them, I have realized that that approach was not going to work for me. You 
may have to take a break from them for a while, but eventually, deli either 
get it or at least come to accept your independence. I would say the best 
thing I could tell you is don't let your family members get you down. 
Continue being independent and doing things for yourself. After my son was 
born, I did want my mom's health at all. I didn't want her help because I 
knew that she would overprotect me instead of letting me figure things out. 
So I ended up hiring a home healthcare nurse. She came three times a week 
for two weeks. To this day, my mom still has no idea that I did that.'s she 
thinks that I just did everything myself. I didn't want my mom seeing me 
take care of my son unless I knew what I was doing. And when she did finally 
Comencini, she was very impressed. There are some things I just don't tell 
her either. I think if you stand firm and hold your ground, your family 
members will soon realize that you have rights too. And that you can live a 
full life. Keep fighting the good fight. Feel free to email me off list if 
you want to talk more. Good luck.
Leslie Sent  from my iPhone

> On Dec 28, 2013, at 5:19 PM, Nicholas <robertson.nicholas at hotmail.com> 
> wrote:
>
> Hi,
>
> I know I post when I need advice, and I need to try to share experiences, 
> but do any of you have tips on dealing with family members who don't get 
> it?  By it I mean blindness and the fact that we are humans who deserve 
> independence like anyone else.  Both sides of my family seem to think that 
> my independence means that my love for them has decreased because I don't 
> let them dictate my life anymore.  Training and the NFB has shown me that 
> the blind can serve as equal when given an opportunity.  I have changed 
> but they have not.  I'm not sure they ever will.  I don't want to cut all 
> ties with them, but feel liberated when I am not around them and sucked 
> down when I am.  However, I keep going back to them for advice and 
> "normal" stuff.  However, when I seek empathy I don't get it.  I willingly 
> take your help, and won't respond until I cool down.  I am known to allow 
> my feelings to get the best of me.  Thanks for your help.  I plan to thank 
> those who respond in a couple of days.
>
> Nicholas S. Robertson, MBA
> Phone: 641.660.2475
> Email: robertson.nicholas at hotmail.com
>            nicholas.robertson2 at va.gov
>
>
>
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