[il-talk] Tips In Dealing With Family Members

[Andrew Webb]

Well said, and it's a reality that most of us can't really avoid.  Speaking
for myself, I find that it usually helps to maintain a sense of humor.  A
well-placed joke here and there can serve both to disarm those around you
and to help you to project an air of confidence in yourself.  On the other
hand, responding to patronizing and overprotective family members (or just
people in general) with expressions of irritation and resentment tends to
have just the opposite effect; this tends to make us appear angry, insecure,
and even emotionally unstable.  I don't offer that observation as a sermon,
because I have certainly fallen prey to the tendency at times myself.  It's
just a reality that I have come to recognize in the course of a few years
now living as a blind person.

Andrew 

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I think we all experience this.  My husband and I  even have this debate on
occasion. All you can do is try to present them with our point of view,
Kernel books etc. Bottom line is they are our families and we should try to
keep  ties with them if at all possible.


Patti S. Gregory-Chang
NFBI President
NFB Scholarship Comm. Chair
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On Dec 28, 2013, at 5:19 PM, Nicholas <robertson.nicholas at hotmail.com>
wrote:

Hi, 

I know I post when I need advice, and I need to try to share experiences,
but do any of you have tips on dealing with family members who don't get it?
By it I mean blindness and the fact that we are humans who deserve
independence like anyone else.  Both sides of my family seem to think that
my independence means that my love for them has decreased because I don't
let them dictate my life anymore.  Training and the NFB has shown me that
the blind can serve as equal when given an opportunity.  I have changed but
they have not.  I'm not sure they ever will.  I don't want to cut all ties
with them, but feel liberated when I am not around them and sucked down when
I am.  However, I keep going back to them for advice and "normal" stuff.
However, when I seek empathy I don't get it.  I willingly take your help,
and won't respond until I cool down.  I am known to allow my feelings to get
the best of me.  Thanks for your help.  I plan to thank those who respond in
a couple of days.

Nicholas S. Robertson, MBA
Phone: 641.660.2475
Email: robertson.nicholas at hotmail.com
           nicholas.robertson2 at va.gov


                        
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