[il-talk] Tips In Dealing With Family Members

[Pat and Don]

This subject comes up quite often at the significant others meeting at the state convention.    Everyone deals with it differently and tries to keep things balanced.   Communication is important and humor helps a lot.  There are no set answers.  It's always a work in progress.
 
Pat Olson
 
> From: awebb2168 at gmail.com
> To: il-talk at nfbnet.org
> Date: Sun, 29 Dec 2013 11:19:13 -0600
> Subject: Re: [il-talk] Tips In Dealing With Family Members
> 
> Well said, and it's a reality that most of us can't really avoid.  Speaking
> for myself, I find that it usually helps to maintain a sense of humor.  A
> well-placed joke here and there can serve both to disarm those around you
> and to help you to project an air of confidence in yourself.  On the other
> hand, responding to patronizing and overprotective family members (or just
> people in general) with expressions of irritation and resentment tends to
> have just the opposite effect; this tends to make us appear angry, insecure,
> and even emotionally unstable.  I don't offer that observation as a sermon,
> because I have certainly fallen prey to the tendency at times myself.  It's
> just a reality that I have come to recognize in the course of a few years
> now living as a blind person.
> 
> Andrew 
> 
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> 
> I think we all experience this.  My husband and I  even have this debate on
> occasion. All you can do is try to present them with our point of view,
> Kernel books etc. Bottom line is they are our families and we should try to
> keep  ties with them if at all possible.
> 
> 
> Patti S. Gregory-Chang
> NFBI President
> NFB Scholarship Comm. Chair
> Sent from my iPhone
> 
> On Dec 28, 2013, at 5:19 PM, Nicholas <robertson.nicholas at hotmail.com>
> wrote:
> 
> Hi, 
> 
> I know I post when I need advice, and I need to try to share experiences,
> but do any of you have tips on dealing with family members who don't get it?
> By it I mean blindness and the fact that we are humans who deserve
> independence like anyone else.  Both sides of my family seem to think that
> my independence means that my love for them has decreased because I don't
> let them dictate my life anymore.  Training and the NFB has shown me that
> the blind can serve as equal when given an opportunity.  I have changed but
> they have not.  I'm not sure they ever will.  I don't want to cut all ties
> with them, but feel liberated when I am not around them and sucked down when
> I am.  However, I keep going back to them for advice and "normal" stuff.
> However, when I seek empathy I don't get it.  I willingly take your help,
> and won't respond until I cool down.  I am known to allow my feelings to get
> the best of me.  Thanks for your help.  I plan to thank those who respond in
> a couple of days.
> 
> Nicholas S. Robertson, MBA
> Phone: 641.660.2475
> Email: robertson.nicholas at hotmail.com
>            nicholas.robertson2 at va.gov
> 
> 
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