[nabs-l] People are weird when it comes to blindness

[Sarah Alawami]

I would have taken that opportunity to educate her and say, I'm must doing
something normal just like you would do. I did that a lot in Ruston and it
semeed to help. I was nice about it and showed them that I was just like any
sighted person  out there.

-----Original Message-----
From: nabs-l-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:nabs-l-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf
Of Jim Reed
Sent: Monday, June 22, 2009 1:13 PM
To: NABS mail list
Subject: [nabs-l] People are weird when it comes to blindness

Hey all, 

Me and my cane took a walk last night, and my walk just happened to coincide
with the end of a festival at the park, so allot of people were out. 

First, I was working on non-visual travel, and as usual, I got myself lost,
so I st oped where I was and I was trying to listen for traffic or anything
else that might give me a clue, then this guy started yelling from his porch
"are you OK, do you need any help, do you know where you are, where are you
going..." I yelled back that "I was fine, that I did not need any help, and
that I was trying to figure it out for myself". I continued to stand there,
trying to figure it out,  and trying to listen for traffic, and this guy
continued to stand there and yell. It got to the point where he was being so
distracting that I just said "F This",  and moved on, thus a learning
opportunity was lost. 

Then, a little later, I was crossing the footbridge that borders campus, and
I stopped walking because I thought I heard a footstep, and I did not want
to whack anyone with my cane. Then, this lady approaches me, introduces
herself, shakes my hand, tells me that she had been following me for a block
or two, and then she tells me that "you are doing great", and that "I admire
you". I politely said thanks; I didn't have the heart to tell her that I
really wasn't blind (in the way she expected me to be blind, anyway). But
really, I was thinking, "First of all, why is this lady admiring me? All I
am doing is taking a walk, which nearly every human on the planet can do."
Then, I thought, "how does this lady know I am "doing great"? She has no
clue where I started, or where I was going. She has no clue if I am lost two
miles in the wrong direction, nor does she know whether or not I fell off of
half a dozen curbs in the process of getting to school."

 I guess I should be proud of the fact that after only one or two weeks of
cane travel experience, that I already put off a vibe that tells others "I
know what I am doing".

I guess this lady struck me as odd because her views on blindness are so
much different than mine. This lady is willing to assume, after observing a
blind stranger travel two blocks, that I am fully competent and capable. I
would not be willing to make that assumption. Why is this lady making such
assumptions about me? I am not complaining that this lady thinks I am
capable,  I am complaining because this lady feels she has all the
information she needs to make such a decision after watching me walk only
two blocks. My point is, by walking two blocks, I have not proven anything,
this lady has no basis by which to judge me, be it positive or negative
judgments. Let me prove myself, let me earn your complements and your
admiration; don't just give them to me. 

Thoughts?
Jim

"From compromise and things half done,
Keep me with stern and stubborn pride,
And when at last the fight is won,
... Keep me still unsatisfied." --Louis Untermeyer


      
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