[nabs-l] People are weird when it comes to blindness

[Serena]

Hi Jim

Actually, the lady wasn't saying you were doing great cuz she was really 
observing much.  She said it cuz she doesn't know anything about blindness, 
so thinks your walking at all is amazing.

Serena


----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Jim Reed" <jim275_2 at yahoo.com>
To: "NABS mail list" <nabs-l at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Monday, June 22, 2009 4:12 PM
Subject: [nabs-l] People are weird when it comes to blindness


Hey all,

Me and my cane took a walk last night, and my walk just happened to coincide 
with the end of a festival at the park, so allot of people were out.

First, I was working on non-visual travel, and as usual, I got myself lost, 
so I st oped where I was and I was trying to listen for traffic or anything 
else that might give me a clue, then this guy started yelling from his porch 
"are you OK, do you need any help, do you know where you are, where are you 
going..." I yelled back that "I was fine, that I did not need any help, and 
that I was trying to figure it out for myself". I continued to stand there, 
trying to figure it out, and trying to listen for traffic, and this guy 
continued to stand there and yell. It got to the point where he was being so 
distracting that I just said "F This", and moved on, thus a learning 
opportunity was lost.

Then, a little later, I was crossing the footbridge that borders campus, and 
I stopped walking because I thought I heard a footstep, and I did not want 
to whack anyone with my cane. Then, this lady approaches me, introduces 
herself, shakes my hand, tells me that she had been following me for a block 
or two, and then she tells me that "you are doing great", and that "I admire 
you". I politely said thanks; I didn't have the heart to tell her that I 
really wasn't blind (in the way she expected me to be blind, anyway). But 
really, I was thinking, "First of all, why is this lady admiring me? All I 
am doing is taking a walk, which nearly every human on the planet can do." 
Then, I thought, "how does this lady know I am "doing great"? She has no 
clue where I started, or where I was going. She has no clue if I am lost two 
miles in the wrong direction, nor does she know whether or not I fell off of 
half a dozen curbs in the process of getting to school."

I guess I should be proud of the fact that after only one or two weeks of 
cane travel experience, that I already put off a vibe that tells others "I 
know what I am doing".

I guess this lady struck me as odd because her views on blindness are so 
much different than mine. This lady is willing to assume, after observing a 
blind stranger travel two blocks, that I am fully competent and capable. I 
would not be willing to make that assumption. Why is this lady making such 
assumptions about me? I am not complaining that this lady thinks I am 
capable, I am complaining because this lady feels she has all the 
information she needs to make such a decision after watching me walk only 
two blocks. My point is, by walking two blocks, I have not proven anything, 
this lady has no basis by which to judge me, be it positive or negative 
judgments. Let me prove myself, let me earn your complements and your 
admiration; don't just give them to me.

Thoughts?
Jim

"From compromise and things half done,
Keep me with stern and stubborn pride,
And when at last the fight is won,
... Keep me still unsatisfied." --Louis Untermeyer



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