[nabs-l] learning independent living

[Beth]

I don't think I'm anxious to learn how to cook now because I'm still
in the dorms and in ollege right now.  The most I can do is mix and
microwave foods, but using a stove to cook a frozen pizza is not a bad
idea for me either.  My mother and dad never really were able to teach
without rushing things, which is a problem for a lot of sighted
parents because we as a society wat things done right now.  So that's
what got me the worst cooking skills ever.  When I went to a center in
Daytina Beach, tey sent me a letter that said I was incapable of
learning or something, and I pretty much have proved them wrong.
Beth

On 5/25/09, Adrianne Dempsey <adrianne.dempsey at gmail.com> wrote:
> I didn't have training at a training center, I think their wonderful, but
> have never been to one except for a week to  complete  an assessment, but
> was given know training.To answer your questions; I have been cooking since
> I was about ten because I didn't have a chois.  I had to cook for my family
> or we didn't eat.  It sounds harsh but I just got throne in to it and it was
> either sink or swim.  I also liked to experiment and began developing my own
> recepies, some turned out amazing, some failed miserably, but most turned
> out pretty good. I actually did more then my sister, because she was lazy.
> She is sighted and just as capable as I am.  Their was a chore list for my
> sister and I but I was the only one who did what was on the list.  I cleaned
> the house, did dishes,swept, mopped, vacuumed, and did yard work.  I never
> used a lon mower, but I cleared brush, trimmed hedges, layed brick, and tore
> out out door walls.  I think the only thing I would want my pairence to do
> differently is perhaps to have shown me how to do things better.  But at the
> same time by throwing me at a task and just telling me to do it with out
> direction gave me allot of independence.  I believe the centers are grate
> but it is like languages, you can take classes and gain a substantial amount
> of knowledge about that language, but once you are in the culture speaking
> the language with know cheat sheet or text book to refer to you learn it
> much quicker.  You learn it when you have to.  If you have the opportunity
> to go to a center it will probably be a grate help but also know that you
> can do all of that stuff.  It is not really that daunting just take little
> steps.
>
>
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: "Ashley Bramlett" <bookwormahb at earthlink.net>
> To: "National Association of Blind Students mailing list"
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> Sent: Sunday, May 24, 2009 7:26 PM
> Subject: [nabs-l] learning independent living
>
>
>> Hi all,
>>
>> I know we can attend centers to learn life skills as adults.  But I think
>> its better to learn skills growing up at age appropriate times.
>> Unfortunately, while I recieved great academic services like braille
>> handouts and alternative formats for texts, I did not get much independent
>>
>> living training. I plan to do something about that of course.
>> I think parents should take an active role in teaching skills so you're
>> not catching up later on and learning skills you could have learned at age
>>
>> 9.
>>
>> For me, my mom did not want us kids in the kitchen with her.  She wanted
>> to do things her way on her own.  So this isn't a totally blindness thing.
>>
>> My brothers were older.  The extent of their cooking was microwaving food
>> or preparing cereal.
>> My brothers didn't do many house chores probably for the same reasons.
>> They did more than me though.
>>
>> I learned braille and had some O/M in school.  I learned computers and my
>> technology through tutors at the department for the blind and reading the
>> mannual.
>>
>> I was sent a rehab teacher as a teen after school at home.  I had two.
>> They taught me some basics.  They labeled the appliances, showed me how to
>>
>> do laundry and labeled it and more.  They showed me dimo tape and how to
>> label.
>> We did some cooking  and cleaning.
>> This was helpful.
>> I'd like to hear what you learned at home since I shared mine.
>> So my questions are:
>> 1. Did you do cooking at the age appropriate times?
>> Were you able to do as much as your siblings if you have them?
>> 2.  Did you participate in doing chores or other tasks as part of the
>> family?  I actually met a blind teen who did house work and recieved
>> allowance.  So I know some parents do this.  This girl, Amanda, was not a
>> federationist but her family raised her with nfb philosophy.
>>
>> 3. What do you wish your parents or family had done differently.
>> For me I wish I had more opportunity and a patient mom to help me learn
>> and then I would help her fix dinner.
>> I met a few blind peers at camp who said their mothers let them make a
>> dish for dinner such as a salad or dessert.  I wish I had done that.
>> Unfortunately many of us are  protected and in reality we were pretty
>> capable.  I guess most of you went to centers to rectify any deficits or
>> learned on your own.
>>
>> Ashley
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