[nabs-l] Disagreeing with mother and others

[Hope Paulos]

I'm on the opposite end of the fence, so to speak. My parents are the exact 
opposite. They are all for whatever I do. I'm 27 and live with my parents- 
even after having graduated college. My parents believe that this is *our* 
house and I have a right to do whatever I want to in it. Obviously I have 
some rules, like clean up after myself, but I'd have those if I were living 
on my own. My parents allow  me to cook, clean, and do whatever. Sometimes, 
when I was younger (25 to be exact) I'd ask my parents if I could do 
something and their response was, "of course. It's *your* home. You don't 
need to ask us". I guess the best thing to do, to keep peace, is to make a 
compromise  with your parents. Show them that you are capable of doing 
certain things, but that you might do it in a different way than they do.
Hope this helps.
Hope and guide dog, Beignet
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Beth" <thebluesisloose at gmail.com>
To: "National Association of Blind Students mailing list" 
<nabs-l at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Monday, April 05, 2010 5:17 PM
Subject: Re: [nabs-l] Disagreeing with mother and others


> As far as disagreements and the lack of maturity, I think it's common
> for parents to approach things in a more united front.  To be honest,
> I sstill live at home if not in college, but my parents are trying to
> let me do things on my own.  But since my budget is too small--fifty a
> week--I can't manage money and can't do a lot.  I don't know what to
> do if I work in a vending stand operation.  So that's the thing.
> Another thing, marriage and dating is a problem because my parents
> might get word of one obsession or crush after another.  Let's face
> it.  I just want to live a normal and productive life with a husband
> and children and house of my own, but my parents still treat me like a
> small child.  They have not yet encouraged me or given me any positive
> feedback whatsoever about my good points as my old friend Kristen puts
> it.  Btw, Kristen and I have known each other since fifth grade.  So
> there I have something to stick with.
> Beth
>
> On 4/5/10, Gerardo Corripio <gera1027 at gmail.com> wrote:
>> Hi guys: I send this not to have pity but in case some of you have lived
>> these experiences while living at home.
>> Here in Mexico (especially for blind and disabled people) one lives at 
>> home
>> a few more years than normal, not like you guys in the US that one leaves
>> home upon going to college. I've completed my major and am working but 
>> have
>> had some problems here at home, especially with my mother and am wanting 
>> to
>> (apart from someday living on my own) what tips and tricks have worked 
>> for
>> you guys?
>> I'm disagreeing on certain things that I feel should be done differently
>> here at home. My mother wen telling her I don't agree with such and such
>> says that this is my home! where is the limit between her home and our 
>> home?
>> Where is the limit when we the kids can give oppinions? Why do mothers
>> always say we won't mature and that we're acting like small children? Has
>> this happened to you guys? and lastly is the rate of parents separating
>> larger when having blind kids?
>> thanks in advanced for any ideas and surely this topic will enrich more 
>> than
>> one.
>> Gerardo
>>
>>
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