[nabs-l] Socializing skills and asking favors

[Jedi]

Gerardo,

If I were you, I would ask to come along with your cousins. After all, 
how else will they get comfortable if they don't have an opportunity to 
minimize their discomfort? Also, I would recommend asking for 
descriptions of what's on the film so you can meaningfully discuss the 
film with them. Besides, they are members of your own family, so some 
social rules (such as the rule of don't impose) don't apply in teh same 
way they do with others. Just my opinion.

Respectfully,
Jedi


Original message:
>    Hi guys: Great topic on cane and independence! Really hit home because
> I'm in the process of also trying to get more independent in going out with
> friends and the like since I'm getting tired of staying home all day and
> depending on people to take me here and there! So my questions are:
> 1.-Suppose I hear my cousins or friends say they're going to a movie or out
> to eat. How can I ask if I can go or should I wait for them to invite me if
> I want to go? Surely they won't because I feel they're afraid of not knowing
> how to cope with a blind person because in order for me to get schooling and
> such we had to leave my native town and now my cousins are afraid and don't
> know how to cope with me or already have their own group made up and are
> afraid to have me join.
> 2.-I already have figured out that while guiding me around I'll use the cane
> in one hand and sighted guide in the other so there's no problem there.
> 3.-While in the movie (unfortunately here in Mexico there's still no such
> thing as DVS in theaters as you guys) is it all right to ask my cousin or
> friend next to me to when they're no dialogues to tell me what's happening
> in the film or should I try and figure it out? Because if they tell me I
> will be more able to discuss the film like the sighted people because I
> don't feel as part of the group while I hear comments on the film while I'm
> not able to join in them in due form since probably I wasn't able to get all
> out of the film.
> All my questions for now but surely more will pop up as the days and weeks
> go by.
> Gerardo


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