[nabs-l] Question about moving out of your parents house

Fri Dec 16 05:28:47 UTC 2011

Arielle,
Right. that is what I sensed from his initial message. Dealing with parental 
attitudes and
making it on your own is definitely a student issue. We all have to live and 
find out how to manage sometime, and many people do this in college. I did 
not; I lived in a dorm, but I know many people who lived in apartments with 
roommates for the first time.

I think one needs to consider many factors including home management skills 
and find a way to manage finances. When I read the girl was young, the first 
thing that came to my mind was  wow, how are they going to support 
themselves living alone and in school? I tell ya, SSI, if both you get it 
probably not  pay your rent! And if it does, factor in other costs like I'd 
say $50 for food a week or more, transportation, expenses for other small 
everyday items, your phone and more. I say this as a caution as I do not 
think many 20 year olds know how much it costs to live. And do you want to 
burn bridges with parents whom you might need someday?  That is a personal 
decision.

Ashley

-----Original Message----- 
From: Arielle Silverman
Sent: Thursday, December 15, 2011 9:29 PM
To: National Association of Blind Students mailing list
Subject: Re: [nabs-l] Question about moving out of your parents house

Chris and all,
With all due respect, it's possible that the reason Koby's parents
don't want him to date this girl is because of his blindness, hers or
both, so it could be blindness-related. Also, this is a list for blind
students, so we discuss blindness stuff but we also discuss student
stuff-and decisions about moving out, college, careers, dealing with
parents etc. is very much a student issue.
I understand you were just trying to be helpful, but to reduce clutter
on the list, it's best to let NABS officers or the list moderators
make judgments about what is on or off-topic. Otherwise, we could end
up with fifty emails back and forth debating about what is on or off
topic, and the whole point of staying on-topic is to reduce the number
of messages. (And so this will be my only post on the matter).
Best,
Arielle-former list chair and former NABS president

On 12/15/11, Chris Nusbaum <dotkid.nusbaum at gmail.com> wrote:
> I wouldn't post it to any blindness-related list, if that list is
> meant strictly for blindness-related discussion, as this one is.
> If there's a general chat list out there or a dating list or
> something like that, you could try that, but I wouldn't post this
> to a list at all; maybe you could try posting it to your Facebook
> page or something like that.
>
> Chris
>
> "The real problem of blindness is not the loss of eyesight.  The
> real problem is the misunderstanding and lack of education that
> exists.  If a blind person has the proper training and
> opportunity, blindness can be reduced to a mere physical
> nuisance."
> -- Kenneth Jernigan (President, National Federation of the Blind,
> 1968-1986
>
>  The I C.A.N.  Foundation helps blind and visually impaired youth
> in Maryland say "I can," by empowering them through providing
> assistive technology and scholarships to camps and conventions
> which help them be equal with their sighted peers.  For more
> information about the Foundation and to support our work, visit
> us online at www.icanfoundation.info!
>
>  ----- Original Message -----
> From: "Koby Cox" <kobycox at gmail.com
> To: "'National Association of Blind Students mailing list'"
> <nabs-l at nfbnet.org
> Date sent: Thu, 15 Dec 2011 18:42:30 -0600
> Subject: Re: [nabs-l] Question about moving out of your parents
> house
>
> Chris,
> What mailing list should I post this on?
> Koby.
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: nabs-l-bounces at nfbnet.org
> [mailto:nabs-l-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
> Behalf Of Chris Nusbaum
> Sent: Thursday, December 15, 2011 6:35 PM
> To: National Association of Blind Students mailing list
> Subject: Re: [nabs-l] Question about moving out of your parents
> house
>
> Hi Koby,
>
> Wow! Sorry I can't help you here; I'll just say this.  I don't
> think this question is really blindness-related, as the fact that
> your parents don't want you to see your girlfriend has nothing to
> do with your blindness.  So, I don't think this is a good list
> for it.  Just my opinion!
>
> Chris
>
> "The real problem of blindness is not the loss of eyesight.  The
> real problem is the misunderstanding and lack of education that
> exists.  If a blind person has the proper training and
> opportunity, blindness can be reduced to a mere physical
> nuisance."
> -- Kenneth Jernigan (President, National Federation of the Blind,
> 1968-1986
>
>  The I C.A.N.  Foundation helps blind and visually impaired youth
> in Maryland say "I can," by empowering them through providing
> assistive technology and scholarships to camps and conventions
> which help them be equal with their sighted peers.  For more
> information about the Foundation and to support our work, visit
> us online at www.icanfoundation.info!
>
>  ----- Original Message -----
> From: "Koby Cox" <kobycox at gmail.com
> To: <nabs-l at nfbnet.org
> Date sent: Thu, 15 Dec 2011 18:07:25 -0600
> Subject: [nabs-l] Question about moving out of your parents house
>
> Hello All,
> I'm totally blind and am 19 years old I currently have a
> girlfriend
> whose 22 years of age.  She's legally blind and has cadaracts.
> I'll be
> graduating highschool on December 20,2011.  I'm thinking about
> moving in
> with her on that day after I get out of school.  However, I'm not
> sure
> how I should explain this to my parents sense they don't want us
> seeing
> one another.  Any ideas?
> Each one of you right back soon,
> Koby.
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