[nabs-l] Blindness vs. Other Minority Groups

[Arielle Silverman]

Sean,
I believe eating with one's hands is more common than using silverware
in some cultures. So, eating with silverware is another example of a
norm that is culturally constructed but is largely arbitrary, and as
far as I know, eating with one's hands never harms anyone. I fail to
see why eating with the hands would be discouraged in an "ideal"
society, unless you are arguing that an "ideal" society is one in
which people always conform to common standards, and I think Marc is
arguing the opposite point. I think expecting blind people to conform
to sighted norms is similar to expecting someone from a culture where
eating is done with the hands to use a fork and spoon. There is
definitely merit to both sides of this larger issue, but the issue of
whether or not to expect conformity in general strays from the
blindness realm.
>From a pragmatic perspective, I think it is beneficial to give blind
children as many tools as possible to attain success and acceptance,
including information about how the sighted majority behaves and what
they expect. As blind children grow into adulthood, they can make
their own choices about how much they want to conform and satisfy the
expectations of others versus maintaining their individual identities.
This is a balance that all people deal with, sighted and blind.
Best,
Arielle

On 11/20/11, Sean Whalen <smwhalenpsp at gmail.com> wrote:
> I have been reading threw the portion of this thread related to concealing
> aspects of oneself and/or changing behavior to fit into the mold of what is
> considered "normal" by society. It is a very interesting question, and I
> find the arguments advanced by Marc and Arielle quite persuasive. I can't,
> however, shake the feeling that blind kids should be discouraged from
> rocking or engaging in other behavior that is considered outside the
> mainstream.
>
>
>
> First, let me say, I couldn't agree more that the call for blind folks to
> hide their eyes if they look abnormal is misguided, and, frankly, fairly
> offensive. I am 100% on board with the notion that we need not, and in fact
> should not, hide part of what and who we are simply for the comfort or
> convenience of others. If somebody wants to wear sunglasses that is entirely
> their decision, and there is absolutely no problem with it, but nobody ought
> to be suggesting that anybody do so for anybody else's benefit.
>
>
>
> Regarding the question of so called "blindisms," I tend to agree with Greg
> that we have precious little choice but to be pragmatic about the issue and
> dissuade blind folks from rocking, poking, etc., if we want them to be set
> up to compete and succeed socially and professionally. I might cede the
> point that, in an ideal world, folks wouldn't be judged on such ultimately
> inconsequential attributes. However, if I were to grant this point, I would
> do so with some reluctance. How far does this go by logical extension? What
> if I like to eat my pasta and salad with my hands rather than a fork and
> knife? Should people just accept that and move on, or is there some real
> value in conforming to social norms there? The same question could just as
> easily be asked regarding a sighted child who prefers to eat with his hands.
> Is that Ok? Would an ideal society accept that as something that harms
> nobody; merely a personal preference to be respected? I don't see how the
> answer to the former can be "yes," and the latter "no." Maybe that's Ok, but
> it seems to me that, when you get right down to it, a whole lot of what we
> deem acceptable and unacceptable  - a large part of the foundation of our
> society - is based on nothing more than a general approval or disapproval of
> it among the populous, and, if you feel that we ought not to be telling
> blind kids not to rock or bob, there are a whole slew of other things we
> ought not to be telling folks in general to do or not do.
>
>
>
> Finally, related to nonverbal communication, you won't catch me dropping fat
> cash on modeling classes in the hopes of appropriately arching my eyebrows
> at just the right moment, but I think the basics are important. As has been
> said, many facial expressions are built in. I have never been taught how to
> look happy, sad, or irritated, but when I feel it, I look it. Perhaps this
> is different for everybody, but some basic animation in the face seems to
> come pretty naturally. And, for the record, I have never seen a face.
>
>
>
> Facing somebody when in conversation and shaking hands when introduced would
> seem to fall into the realm of common courtesy. They're social norms, to be
> sure, but I see absolutely no reason that blind individuals shouldn't be
> expected to adopt these norms like anybody else. I am not saying that
> anybody has argued that we shouldn't be expected to do so, but we should. If
> I meet somebody and they don't offer a hand, barring some obvious reason not
> to, it seems rude. This ties back into the above point that once we accept
> that some people will rock, etc., we might have to accept a lot of other
> actions, or lacks of action, based on the same rationale.
>
>
>
> Take care,
>
>
>
> Sean
>
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