[nabs-l] this one aide is driving me crazy? how should i react?

[Nicole B. Torcolini at Home]

Bluntly explain to him that you appreciate his help but that you don't need 
it. Ask him what he thinks your cane is for. Next time he starts following 
you, stop and refuse to go anywhere until he stops following you. Tell him 
that you have an aide already and that aide would do what he is doing if he 
thought it was necessary. As far as the talking on the phone, ask him how he 
would like it. Then, do something like, when leaving the message for your 
mother, include that you had to hang up before because he was being rude. If 
this does not stop things, go talk to whoever his boss is.

Nicole

----- Original Message ----- 
From: "vejas" <brlsurfer at gmail.com>
To: <nabs-l at nfbnet.org>; <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Tuesday, March 06, 2012 4:50 PM
Subject: [nabs-l] this one aide is driving me crazy? how should i react?


Hi,
The person I am writing about is not my aide, it's another guy.
This guy, Gregory, helps out with other kids, I think maybe the
ones who are autistic?
Anyway, when I've seen him recently he has been ABSOLUTELY
ANNOYING.
For example, for no other reason than the fact that I was
travelling on my own, he said he was proud of me.  But I didn't
do anything! I'm just traveling, exactly as I should!
On a second incident, when I was outside a classroom, I had to
call my mom for something, and he came up.  After being told that
I was on the phone, I was just about to leave the message when he
began talking again in his loud voice, and I had to call her
again.  When somebody knows you're on the phone, they should
seriously JUST LEAVE.
And maybe the worst was today.  He followed me the WHOLE ENTIRE
last quarter of my math class.  He would tell me to turn left,
even if I knew I had to.  And the weirdest thing was that when I
was walking, I felt a trash can with my cane and went around it
just as I was supposed to.  Then a couple seconds later he said,
"There's a trash can." Yes, I know.  I went around it a couple of
seconds ago.
I really need help.  He really bugs me.  I'm assuming he might
just be uneducated in blindness, as he is so used to working with
learning-disabled and autistíc people and probably has to do a
lot with them.
I've considered telling my aide, but they're sort of friends and
knowing who he is (I've had this aide for three years, same one I
talked about about getting lost a week ago), I'm assuming he's
probably going to make some excuse for Gregory (they're on
friendly terms.)
How can I get the message across to Gregory? Seriously if he
doesn't listen to the fact that I'm about to send my mom a
message, how am I going to expect him to listen if I talk with
him firmly?
Thank you so much.
Vejas


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