[nabs-l] When NFB philosophy doesn't seem to work... advice?

[I. C. Bray]

Dave, I'll tell you mine, if you tell me yours? ( smiley )

I am, of course only being fun & trying to relax the conversation.

To everyone,

Regardless of whatever fetishes you have, sexuality and intimacy, are 
definitely separate.
Personality is key to Chemistry between people.
I don't care how "HOT" or a person is, if you can't talk to them be genuine 
and share humor, then you aren't going to make it in the bedroom or 
relationship... unless of course, the relationship is ONLY about sex.

If SEX really  is the only basis of the relationship, then fetishes should 
come out early, otherwise, you have to sneak them in... slowly.

Speaking from experience?  YES I AM.  I try not to make my personal & 
private life this public, but it sounds like there is an open forum here 
with people who want perspective... I have some to share... you all are 
welcome to it.

My best friend is a two-degreed Psycology Graduate who tought sex edd and 
does tons of comunity outreach.
I have other friends who are Psychiatric doctors.   This subject is a 
progressive one and it often doesn't get the benefit of being discussed 
without shame, or embarrassment.

The thing that has my neck hair really raising is the borderline personality 
trait of not respecting boundaries, and the mumbling to one's self.
Sexuality, as we all know is key to some personal identity.  It creates 
films like Psycho, and Blue Velvet and
The Graduate and even Risky Business.

advice:
Someone professional should be notified regarding this person in the hopes 
that as a professional, they can investigate and prevent any escallation.
I think blocking the number is, at this point, not a bad idea.
For those of you who have fetishes, I think they are healthy and once you 
get over the initial uniqueness  and fear of shame or embarrassment, you 
should let your freak flag fly.
We all have our turn-ons and offs.  I do too!  Find a website that is based 
upon your intrests & fetishes  and make friends is what I'll tell you to do.
Diversity is the seasoning and spice of life.  Sometimes it will  come at a 
cost, but it is the only life you have-- you should live it.

Gawd I love open and friendly conversations regarding progressive 
subjects... I should have been a Hippie.  LOL!

Respectfully,
Ian  C. Bray
Louisville, KY.