[nabs-l] When NFB philosophy doesn't seem to work... advice?

[Kaiti Shelton]

Hi,

I know now that'she is mentally ill in some way, but being sixteen and
only knowing her a little bit, I thought a lot of her issues were
self-esteem related to her blindness.  I also thought the personal
space issue was something her parents just didn't teach her, since I
have seen other blind people get way too close to others too.  The
funny thing was that I decided to stop trying to help her with the NFB
philosophy and positive thinking stuff after I took my AP Psychology
course and recognized some issues with her.

Sandra, you bring up an interesting point that before I didn't give a
lot of thought to.  I don't know how the various members of my family
aside from my mom have handled her calls, but my mom and I tend to do
it in a similar way.  We do not have a talking caller ID in my house,
so I don't know who is calling the house until I hear them say
something.  I'll answer very politely, then once I know it's her I
either let her talk and don't get to say much at all, or I pretend to
be my mom or sister in a way by telling her things like I'm sleeping
as I did a few nights ago.  I just talk to her like I would anyone
else calling for someone in the family who is unavailable.  It is
possible that she is seeing something in that that I am not.  That is
definitely some food for thought.

On 12/29/13, Jedi Moerke <loneblindjedi at samobile.net> wrote:
> Folks,
>
> While  I am glad that you are willing to discuss your private lives with
> each other, I am not personally prepared to hear it. Will you please refrain
> from discussing this on the list? Thank you.
>
> Sent from my iPhone
>
>> On Dec 28, 2013, at 5:30 AM, "I. C. Bray" <i.c.bray at win.net> wrote:
>>
>> Dave, I'll tell you mine, if you tell me yours? ( smiley )
>>
>> I am, of course only being fun & trying to relax the conversation.
>>
>> To everyone,
>>
>> Regardless of whatever fetishes you have, sexuality and intimacy, are
>> definitely separate.
>> Personality is key to Chemistry between people.
>> I don't care how "HOT" or a person is, if you can't talk to them be
>> genuine
>> and share humor, then you aren't going to make it in the bedroom or
>> relationship... unless of course, the relationship is ONLY about sex.
>>
>> If SEX really  is the only basis of the relationship, then fetishes should
>>
>> come out early, otherwise, you have to sneak them in... slowly.
>>
>> Speaking from experience?  YES I AM.  I try not to make my personal &
>> private life this public, but it sounds like there is an open forum here
>> with people who want perspective... I have some to share... you all are
>> welcome to it.
>>
>> My best friend is a two-degreed Psycology Graduate who tought sex edd and
>>
>> does tons of comunity outreach.
>> I have other friends who are Psychiatric doctors.   This subject is a
>> progressive one and it often doesn't get the benefit of being discussed
>> without shame, or embarrassment.
>>
>> The thing that has my neck hair really raising is the borderline
>> personality
>> trait of not respecting boundaries, and the mumbling to one's self.
>> Sexuality, as we all know is key to some personal identity.  It creates
>> films like Psycho, and Blue Velvet and
>> The Graduate and even Risky Business.
>>
>> advice:
>> Someone professional should be notified regarding this person in the hopes
>>
>> that as a professional, they can investigate and prevent any escallation.
>> I think blocking the number is, at this point, not a bad idea.
>> For those of you who have fetishes, I think they are healthy and once you
>>
>> get over the initial uniqueness  and fear of shame or embarrassment, you
>> should let your freak flag fly.
>> We all have our turn-ons and offs.  I do too!  Find a website that is
>> based
>> upon your intrests & fetishes  and make friends is what I'll tell you to
>> do.
>> Diversity is the seasoning and spice of life.  Sometimes it will  come at
>> a
>> cost, but it is the only life you have-- you should live it.
>>
>> Gawd I love open and friendly conversations regarding progressive
>> subjects... I should have been a Hippie.  LOL!
>>
>> Respectfully,
>> Ian  C. Bray
>> Louisville, KY.
>>
>>
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-- 
Kaiti