[nabs-l] CanI dance if I want to?

Tue May 14 01:07:26 UTC 2013

HI Arielle,
  I've seen those funky cane holster thingies that attach to a belt
loop or something, maybe there are versions somewhere for telescopic
canes?  I think they look kind of silly, personally but I suppose it's
an option.
  Best,
Kirt

On 5/13/13, Arielle Silverman <arielle71 at gmail.com> wrote:
> Hi all,
> I was fortunate to grow up among many Jewish kids who all had bar and
> bat mitzvahs, (Jewish celebrations of coming-of-age that happen at age
> 12 or 13) and most had dance parties for their bar and bat mitzvahs,
> so I became comfortable with dancing and potentially looking stupid at
> quite a young age. :) I'm sure some people taught me how to dance,
> though I can't remember who and honestly, by now I've forgotten most
> of my formal instruction. I do remember being told that dancing is
> mainly about having fun and just moving your body to the beat of the
> music. I'm sure I don't dance perfectly but I've always had fun and
> nobody has ever criticized my dancing or not wanted to be with me on
> the dance floor because of my dancing. So I don't think you need to
> worry too much about how you appear to others. If the group is doing a
> line dance like the YMCA, and you don't know the moves for that
> particular dance, there's no problem with sitting it out or just
> moving off the dance floor to talk to people, or go get a drink or
> snack or whatever, during that song. If you want to learn some things,
> you could ask a friend or family member who has lots of dancing
> experience to teach you or just to watch your moves and tell you
> what's good and what you could change or improve on. Also, slow
> dancing is easy for girls who are just supposed to follow the man, but
> if you're a guy and want to learn how to slow-dance with women you may
> want to get a little bit of formal instruction.
> One thing I haven't quite figured out yet is where to put my cane
> while dancing. When I was younger I would just go with a sighted
> friend and stash my cane at a table while my friend and I danced. Now
> I'm less comfortable being with the same person all night and I'd like
> to be able to keep track of my cane myself without having it on the
> dance floor with me. If I go to a dancing event I usually am not
> wearing clothes that allow for storage of a telescoping cane, unless I
> bring a purse and keep it on me while dancing, which I suppose is an
> option. I'm curious if others have found good ways to manage this
> issue. The best solution I've used is to find a sound landmark of some
> sort like the bar or music stand and put my cane in a corner near that
> spot. But this doesn't work as well in large venues.
> Arielle
>
> On 5/12/13, justin williams <justin.williams2 at gmail.com> wrote:
>> Get a guy then; it's cool.  That works.  Longg as he can dance a little,
>> and
>> is a good teacher.  Tell him to move you your body for you at first so
>> you
>> can get the movement.  In japah, that is how the black belts teach the
>> white
>> belts.  That is how my instructor instructs me.  Also, if you don't
>> drink,
>> then that is fine too.  That is just a trick I use.  You can do the same
>> thing with a cup of water, or a soda; it should work the same way.  If
>> you
>> don't want to hang onto a cup like that, then any of the other methods
>> will
>> work just fine.  You just got to mix and match my man.  Mix and match.
>>
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: nabs-l [mailto:nabs-l-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Darian Smith
>> Sent: Monday, May 13, 2013 8:10 PM
>> To: National Association of Blind Students mailing list
>> Subject: Re: [nabs-l] CanI dance if I want to?
>>
>> Hi listers:  should gender matter  in who teaches you?
>>  and  what would you suggest if you cannot or  choose not to  partake
>> in
>> alcoholic  beverages?
>>  I think these are very interesting points indeed,  Just curious as to
>> other
>> ways you might go about it?
>>  Thanks Justin!
>>
>>   Darian
>>
>> On May 12, 2013, at 3:59 PM, justin williams <justin.williams2 at gmail.com>
>> wrote:
>>
>>> Get a friend, preferably a girl to teach you how to dance.  Sometimes
>>> keeping a drink in your hand will give you an excuse not to dance.
>>> Personally, I avoid dance clubs like the plague if at all possible;
>>> however, there are just times in social situations where you just have
>>> to shake a leg.  Do the best you can.  Just move your hips and try to
>>> keep up with the beat.  There are a lot of other people out there with
>>> you who can't dance either.  They also look terrible.  If you drink,
>>> it loosen's you up just a little.  It doen't make you better, you jus
>>> think you are.  Smile just a little even if you don't like dancing, or
>>> aren't very good at it.  The appearance of enjoyment, or hopefully you
>>> are actually enjoying your self, lets everyone see that you are
>>> confident; you can't dance and you know it, but you don't care.  It
>>> helps.  I feel you man; I'm in the same boat as you accept I have
>>> learned a few tricks to fake it until I can get off of the dance
>>> floor.  I get fairly drunk on nights like that if I go out with a
>>> group of people because I am using trips to the bar as an excuse not to
>> dance.  Remember, if possible, get a friend, especially a girl to teach
>> you.
>>>
>>>
>>> -----Original Message-----
>>> From: nabs-l [mailto:nabs-l-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Darian
>>> Smith
>>> Sent: Monday, May 13, 2013 6:36 PM
>>> To: National Association of Blind Students mailing list
>>> Subject: [nabs-l] CanI dance if I want to?
>>>
>>> Hi all,
>>> Please  excuse  the slight 80's song reference,  but I am curious
>>> about how you all go about attending social functions where dancing is
>>> a part of the atmosphere?
>>> Do you decide to not  take part in it because you don't know how to
>>> dance?
>>> are you too shy?   Do you just get out there regardless?
>>> On Dancing, how do you learn how to dance  if you can't do what a lot
>>> of folks do and watch it  on television  or the internet?
>>> Thanks!
>>>
>>> Darian
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