[nabs-l] CanI dance if I want to?

Tue May 14 01:17:47 UTC 2013

Haha, indeed!  I obviously wasn't thinking very clearly...I suppose
that would work for any of us guys, if we didn't really care about
looking strange...just one of the reasons guys have it easier, I
guess.  :)

On 5/13/13, Arielle Silverman <arielle71 at gmail.com> wrote:
> Right, but if I'm going dancing I'm not going to be wearing anything
> that holds a belt! How can you stow a cane on a dress? Just thinking
> about it is kind of hilarious!
> Arielle
>
> On 5/13/13, Kirt Manwaring <kirt.crazydude at gmail.com> wrote:
>> HI Arielle,
>>   I've seen those funky cane holster thingies that attach to a belt
>> loop or something, maybe there are versions somewhere for telescopic
>> canes?  I think they look kind of silly, personally but I suppose it's
>> an option.
>>   Best,
>> Kirt
>>
>> On 5/13/13, Arielle Silverman <arielle71 at gmail.com> wrote:
>>> Hi all,
>>> I was fortunate to grow up among many Jewish kids who all had bar and
>>> bat mitzvahs, (Jewish celebrations of coming-of-age that happen at age
>>> 12 or 13) and most had dance parties for their bar and bat mitzvahs,
>>> so I became comfortable with dancing and potentially looking stupid at
>>> quite a young age. :) I'm sure some people taught me how to dance,
>>> though I can't remember who and honestly, by now I've forgotten most
>>> of my formal instruction. I do remember being told that dancing is
>>> mainly about having fun and just moving your body to the beat of the
>>> music. I'm sure I don't dance perfectly but I've always had fun and
>>> nobody has ever criticized my dancing or not wanted to be with me on
>>> the dance floor because of my dancing. So I don't think you need to
>>> worry too much about how you appear to others. If the group is doing a
>>> line dance like the YMCA, and you don't know the moves for that
>>> particular dance, there's no problem with sitting it out or just
>>> moving off the dance floor to talk to people, or go get a drink or
>>> snack or whatever, during that song. If you want to learn some things,
>>> you could ask a friend or family member who has lots of dancing
>>> experience to teach you or just to watch your moves and tell you
>>> what's good and what you could change or improve on. Also, slow
>>> dancing is easy for girls who are just supposed to follow the man, but
>>> if you're a guy and want to learn how to slow-dance with women you may
>>> want to get a little bit of formal instruction.
>>> One thing I haven't quite figured out yet is where to put my cane
>>> while dancing. When I was younger I would just go with a sighted
>>> friend and stash my cane at a table while my friend and I danced. Now
>>> I'm less comfortable being with the same person all night and I'd like
>>> to be able to keep track of my cane myself without having it on the
>>> dance floor with me. If I go to a dancing event I usually am not
>>> wearing clothes that allow for storage of a telescoping cane, unless I
>>> bring a purse and keep it on me while dancing, which I suppose is an
>>> option. I'm curious if others have found good ways to manage this
>>> issue. The best solution I've used is to find a sound landmark of some
>>> sort like the bar or music stand and put my cane in a corner near that
>>> spot. But this doesn't work as well in large venues.
>>> Arielle
>>>
>>> On 5/12/13, justin williams <justin.williams2 at gmail.com> wrote:
>>>> Get a guy then; it's cool.  That works.  Longg as he can dance a
>>>> little,
>>>> and
>>>> is a good teacher.  Tell him to move you your body for you at first so
>>>> you
>>>> can get the movement.  In japah, that is how the black belts teach the
>>>> white
>>>> belts.  That is how my instructor instructs me.  Also, if you don't
>>>> drink,
>>>> then that is fine too.  That is just a trick I use.  You can do the
>>>> same
>>>> thing with a cup of water, or a soda; it should work the same way.  If
>>>> you
>>>> don't want to hang onto a cup like that, then any of the other methods
>>>> will
>>>> work just fine.  You just got to mix and match my man.  Mix and match.
>>>>
>>>> -----Original Message-----
>>>> From: nabs-l [mailto:nabs-l-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Darian
>>>> Smith
>>>> Sent: Monday, May 13, 2013 8:10 PM
>>>> To: National Association of Blind Students mailing list
>>>> Subject: Re: [nabs-l] CanI dance if I want to?
>>>>
>>>> Hi listers:  should gender matter  in who teaches you?
>>>>  and  what would you suggest if you cannot or  choose not to  partake
>>>> in
>>>> alcoholic  beverages?
>>>>  I think these are very interesting points indeed,  Just curious as to
>>>> other
>>>> ways you might go about it?
>>>>  Thanks Justin!
>>>>
>>>>   Darian
>>>>
>>>> On May 12, 2013, at 3:59 PM, justin williams
>>>> <justin.williams2 at gmail.com>
>>>> wrote:
>>>>
>>>>> Get a friend, preferably a girl to teach you how to dance.  Sometimes
>>>>> keeping a drink in your hand will give you an excuse not to dance.
>>>>> Personally, I avoid dance clubs like the plague if at all possible;
>>>>> however, there are just times in social situations where you just have
>>>>> to shake a leg.  Do the best you can.  Just move your hips and try to
>>>>> keep up with the beat.  There are a lot of other people out there with
>>>>> you who can't dance either.  They also look terrible.  If you drink,
>>>>> it loosen's you up just a little.  It doen't make you better, you jus
>>>>> think you are.  Smile just a little even if you don't like dancing, or
>>>>> aren't very good at it.  The appearance of enjoyment, or hopefully you
>>>>> are actually enjoying your self, lets everyone see that you are
>>>>> confident; you can't dance and you know it, but you don't care.  It
>>>>> helps.  I feel you man; I'm in the same boat as you accept I have
>>>>> learned a few tricks to fake it until I can get off of the dance
>>>>> floor.  I get fairly drunk on nights like that if I go out with a
>>>>> group of people because I am using trips to the bar as an excuse not
>>>>> to
>>>> dance.  Remember, if possible, get a friend, especially a girl to teach
>>>> you.
>>>>>
>>>>>
>>>>> -----Original Message-----
>>>>> From: nabs-l [mailto:nabs-l-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Darian
>>>>> Smith
>>>>> Sent: Monday, May 13, 2013 6:36 PM
>>>>> To: National Association of Blind Students mailing list
>>>>> Subject: [nabs-l] CanI dance if I want to?
>>>>>
>>>>> Hi all,
>>>>> Please  excuse  the slight 80's song reference,  but I am curious
>>>>> about how you all go about attending social functions where dancing is
>>>>> a part of the atmosphere?
>>>>> Do you decide to not  take part in it because you don't know how to
>>>>> dance?
>>>>> are you too shy?   Do you just get out there regardless?
>>>>> On Dancing, how do you learn how to dance  if you can't do what a lot
>>>>> of folks do and watch it  on television  or the internet?
>>>>> Thanks!
>>>>>
>>>>> Darian
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