[nabs-l] CanI dance if I want to?

Tue May 14 01:41:41 UTC 2013

You are just brave, I guess. hahaha
On May 13, 2013, at 6:22 PM, Arielle Silverman <arielle71 at gmail.com> wrote:

> Yes--and it's funny that everyone who responded to this thread before
> me has been male?
> Arielle
> 
> On 5/13/13, Kirt Manwaring <kirt.crazydude at gmail.com> wrote:
>> Haha, indeed!  I obviously wasn't thinking very clearly...I suppose
>> that would work for any of us guys, if we didn't really care about
>> looking strange...just one of the reasons guys have it easier, I
>> guess.  :)
>> 
>> On 5/13/13, Arielle Silverman <arielle71 at gmail.com> wrote:
>>> Right, but if I'm going dancing I'm not going to be wearing anything
>>> that holds a belt! How can you stow a cane on a dress? Just thinking
>>> about it is kind of hilarious!
>>> Arielle
>>> 
>>> On 5/13/13, Kirt Manwaring <kirt.crazydude at gmail.com> wrote:
>>>> HI Arielle,
>>>>  I've seen those funky cane holster thingies that attach to a belt
>>>> loop or something, maybe there are versions somewhere for telescopic
>>>> canes?  I think they look kind of silly, personally but I suppose it's
>>>> an option.
>>>>  Best,
>>>> Kirt
>>>> 
>>>> On 5/13/13, Arielle Silverman <arielle71 at gmail.com> wrote:
>>>>> Hi all,
>>>>> I was fortunate to grow up among many Jewish kids who all had bar and
>>>>> bat mitzvahs, (Jewish celebrations of coming-of-age that happen at age
>>>>> 12 or 13) and most had dance parties for their bar and bat mitzvahs,
>>>>> so I became comfortable with dancing and potentially looking stupid at
>>>>> quite a young age. :) I'm sure some people taught me how to dance,
>>>>> though I can't remember who and honestly, by now I've forgotten most
>>>>> of my formal instruction. I do remember being told that dancing is
>>>>> mainly about having fun and just moving your body to the beat of the
>>>>> music. I'm sure I don't dance perfectly but I've always had fun and
>>>>> nobody has ever criticized my dancing or not wanted to be with me on
>>>>> the dance floor because of my dancing. So I don't think you need to
>>>>> worry too much about how you appear to others. If the group is doing a
>>>>> line dance like the YMCA, and you don't know the moves for that
>>>>> particular dance, there's no problem with sitting it out or just
>>>>> moving off the dance floor to talk to people, or go get a drink or
>>>>> snack or whatever, during that song. If you want to learn some things,
>>>>> you could ask a friend or family member who has lots of dancing
>>>>> experience to teach you or just to watch your moves and tell you
>>>>> what's good and what you could change or improve on. Also, slow
>>>>> dancing is easy for girls who are just supposed to follow the man, but
>>>>> if you're a guy and want to learn how to slow-dance with women you may
>>>>> want to get a little bit of formal instruction.
>>>>> One thing I haven't quite figured out yet is where to put my cane
>>>>> while dancing. When I was younger I would just go with a sighted
>>>>> friend and stash my cane at a table while my friend and I danced. Now
>>>>> I'm less comfortable being with the same person all night and I'd like
>>>>> to be able to keep track of my cane myself without having it on the
>>>>> dance floor with me. If I go to a dancing event I usually am not
>>>>> wearing clothes that allow for storage of a telescoping cane, unless I
>>>>> bring a purse and keep it on me while dancing, which I suppose is an
>>>>> option. I'm curious if others have found good ways to manage this
>>>>> issue. The best solution I've used is to find a sound landmark of some
>>>>> sort like the bar or music stand and put my cane in a corner near that
>>>>> spot. But this doesn't work as well in large venues.
>>>>> Arielle
>>>>> 
>>>>> On 5/12/13, justin williams <justin.williams2 at gmail.com> wrote:
>>>>>> Get a guy then; it's cool.  That works.  Longg as he can dance a
>>>>>> little,
>>>>>> and
>>>>>> is a good teacher.  Tell him to move you your body for you at first so
>>>>>> you
>>>>>> can get the movement.  In japah, that is how the black belts teach the
>>>>>> white
>>>>>> belts.  That is how my instructor instructs me.  Also, if you don't
>>>>>> drink,
>>>>>> then that is fine too.  That is just a trick I use.  You can do the
>>>>>> same
>>>>>> thing with a cup of water, or a soda; it should work the same way.  If
>>>>>> you
>>>>>> don't want to hang onto a cup like that, then any of the other methods
>>>>>> will
>>>>>> work just fine.  You just got to mix and match my man.  Mix and match.
>>>>>> 
>>>>>> -----Original Message-----
>>>>>> From: nabs-l [mailto:nabs-l-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Darian
>>>>>> Smith
>>>>>> Sent: Monday, May 13, 2013 8:10 PM
>>>>>> To: National Association of Blind Students mailing list
>>>>>> Subject: Re: [nabs-l] CanI dance if I want to?
>>>>>> 
>>>>>> Hi listers:  should gender matter  in who teaches you?
>>>>>> and  what would you suggest if you cannot or  choose not to  partake
>>>>>> in
>>>>>> alcoholic  beverages?
>>>>>> I think these are very interesting points indeed,  Just curious as to
>>>>>> other
>>>>>> ways you might go about it?
>>>>>> Thanks Justin!
>>>>>> 
>>>>>>  Darian
>>>>>> 
>>>>>> On May 12, 2013, at 3:59 PM, justin williams
>>>>>> <justin.williams2 at gmail.com>
>>>>>> wrote:
>>>>>> 
>>>>>>> Get a friend, preferably a girl to teach you how to dance.  Sometimes
>>>>>>> keeping a drink in your hand will give you an excuse not to dance.
>>>>>>> Personally, I avoid dance clubs like the plague if at all possible;
>>>>>>> however, there are just times in social situations where you just
>>>>>>> have
>>>>>>> to shake a leg.  Do the best you can.  Just move your hips and try to
>>>>>>> keep up with the beat.  There are a lot of other people out there
>>>>>>> with
>>>>>>> you who can't dance either.  They also look terrible.  If you drink,
>>>>>>> it loosen's you up just a little.  It doen't make you better, you jus
>>>>>>> think you are.  Smile just a little even if you don't like dancing,
>>>>>>> or
>>>>>>> aren't very good at it.  The appearance of enjoyment, or hopefully
>>>>>>> you
>>>>>>> are actually enjoying your self, lets everyone see that you are
>>>>>>> confident; you can't dance and you know it, but you don't care.  It
>>>>>>> helps.  I feel you man; I'm in the same boat as you accept I have
>>>>>>> learned a few tricks to fake it until I can get off of the dance
>>>>>>> floor.  I get fairly drunk on nights like that if I go out with a
>>>>>>> group of people because I am using trips to the bar as an excuse not
>>>>>>> to
>>>>>> dance.  Remember, if possible, get a friend, especially a girl to
>>>>>> teach
>>>>>> you.
>>>>>>> 
>>>>>>> 
>>>>>>> -----Original Message-----
>>>>>>> From: nabs-l [mailto:nabs-l-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Darian
>>>>>>> Smith
>>>>>>> Sent: Monday, May 13, 2013 6:36 PM
>>>>>>> To: National Association of Blind Students mailing list
>>>>>>> Subject: [nabs-l] CanI dance if I want to?
>>>>>>> 
>>>>>>> Hi all,
>>>>>>> Please  excuse  the slight 80's song reference,  but I am curious
>>>>>>> about how you all go about attending social functions where dancing
>>>>>>> is
>>>>>>> a part of the atmosphere?
>>>>>>> Do you decide to not  take part in it because you don't know how to
>>>>>>> dance?
>>>>>>> are you too shy?   Do you just get out there regardless?
>>>>>>> On Dancing, how do you learn how to dance  if you can't do what a lot
>>>>>>> of folks do and watch it  on television  or the internet?
>>>>>>> Thanks!
>>>>>>> 
>>>>>>> Darian
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