[nabs-l] CanI dance if I want to?

Tue May 14 01:54:04 UTC 2013

Exactly! Hopefully, the dancer could be aware of where he stashed his 
cane, so he need not recruit ol' Sighty...
CarAt 06:46 PM 5/13/2013, you wrote:
>I suppose if  it were that easy, the question would not have to be asked?
>  Personally, I like to think  that there are options.  There is 
> nothing wrong with asking someone with vision to help you 
> find   your cane, but there is also nothing wrong with seeing if 
> there is a way that you can still keep track of your cane and get 
> it when you want and not feel as if you have to feel as if you are 
> bothering someone to grab it.
>
>  How often to women go dancing with their purse?
>On May 13, 2013, at 6:25 PM, Carly Mihalakis <carlymih at comcast.net> wrote:
>
> > Hi,  Can you not just set your cane to the side while you are 
> dancing? You don't need a holster, backpack or anything else. Jus 
> find a place you can reach, or ask ol' sighty to grab it when 
> you're done. Not rocket science!
> > CarAt 06:12 PM 5/13/2013, Arielle Silverman wrote:
> >> Right, but if I'm going dancing I'm not going to be wearing anything
> >> that holds a belt! How can you stow a cane on a dress? Just thinking
> >> about it is kind of hilarious!
> >> Arielle
> >>
> >> On 5/13/13, Kirt Manwaring <kirt.crazydude at gmail.com> wrote:
> >> > HI Arielle,
> >> >   I've seen those funky cane holster thingies that attach to a belt
> >> > loop or something, maybe there are versions somewhere for telescopic
> >> > canes?  I think they look kind of silly, personally but I suppose it's
> >> > an option.
> >> >   Best,
> >> > Kirt
> >> >
> >> > On 5/13/13, Arielle Silverman <arielle71 at gmail.com> wrote:
> >> >> Hi all,
> >> >> I was fortunate to grow up among many Jewish kids who all had bar and
> >> >> bat mitzvahs, (Jewish celebrations of coming-of-age that happen at age
> >> >> 12 or 13) and most had dance parties for their bar and bat mitzvahs,
> >> >> so I became comfortable with dancing and potentially looking stupid at
> >> >> quite a young age. :) I'm sure some people taught me how to dance,
> >> >> though I can't remember who and honestly, by now I've forgotten most
> >> >> of my formal instruction. I do remember being told that dancing is
> >> >> mainly about having fun and just moving your body to the beat of the
> >> >> music. I'm sure I don't dance perfectly but I've always had fun and
> >> >> nobody has ever criticized my dancing or not wanted to be with me on
> >> >> the dance floor because of my dancing. So I don't think you need to
> >> >> worry too much about how you appear to others. If the group is doing a
> >> >> line dance like the YMCA, and you don't know the moves for that
> >> >> particular dance, there's no problem with sitting it out or just
> >> >> moving off the dance floor to talk to people, or go get a drink or
> >> >> snack or whatever, during that song. If you want to learn some things,
> >> >> you could ask a friend or family member who has lots of dancing
> >> >> experience to teach you or just to watch your moves and tell you
> >> >> what's good and what you could change or improve on. Also, slow
> >> >> dancing is easy for girls who are just supposed to follow the man, but
> >> >> if you're a guy and want to learn how to slow-dance with women you may
> >> >> want to get a little bit of formal instruction.
> >> >> One thing I haven't quite figured out yet is where to put my cane
> >> >> while dancing. When I was younger I would just go with a sighted
> >> >> friend and stash my cane at a table while my friend and I danced. Now
> >> >> I'm less comfortable being with the same person all night and I'd like
> >> >> to be able to keep track of my cane myself without having it on the
> >> >> dance floor with me. If I go to a dancing event I usually am not
> >> >> wearing clothes that allow for storage of a telescoping cane, unless I
> >> >> bring a purse and keep it on me while dancing, which I suppose is an
> >> >> option. I'm curious if others have found good ways to manage this
> >> >> issue. The best solution I've used is to find a sound landmark of some
> >> >> sort like the bar or music stand and put my cane in a corner near that
> >> >> spot. But this doesn't work as well in large venues.
> >> >> Arielle
> >> >>
> >> >> On 5/12/13, justin williams <justin.williams2 at gmail.com> wrote:
> >> >>> Get a guy then; it's cool.  That works.  Longg as he can 
> dance a little,
> >> >>> and
> >> >>> is a good teacher.  Tell him to move you your body for you at first so
> >> >>> you
> >> >>> can get the movement.  In japah, that is how the black belts teach the
> >> >>> white
> >> >>> belts.  That is how my instructor instructs me.  Also, if you don't
> >> >>> drink,
> >> >>> then that is fine too.  That is just a trick I use.  You can 
> do the same
> >> >>> thing with a cup of water, or a soda; it should work the same way.  If
> >> >>> you
> >> >>> don't want to hang onto a cup like that, then any of the other methods
> >> >>> will
> >> >>> work just fine.  You just got to mix and match my man.  Mix and match.
> >> >>>
> >> >>> -----Original Message-----
> >> >>> From: nabs-l [mailto:nabs-l-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Darian
> >> >>> Smith
> >> >>> Sent: Monday, May 13, 2013 8:10 PM
> >> >>> To: National Association of Blind Students mailing list
> >> >>> Subject: Re: [nabs-l] CanI dance if I want to?
> >> >>>
> >> >>> Hi listers:  should gender matter  in who teaches you?
> >> >>>  and  what would you suggest if you cannot or  choose not to  partake
> >> >>> in
> >> >>> alcoholic  beverages?
> >> >>>  I think these are very interesting points indeed,  Just curious as to
> >> >>> other
> >> >>> ways you might go about it?
> >> >>>  Thanks Justin!
> >> >>>
> >> >>>   Darian
> >> >>>
> >> >>> On May 12, 2013, at 3:59 PM, justin williams
> >> >>> <justin.williams2 at gmail.com>
> >> >>> wrote:
> >> >>>
> >> >>>> Get a friend, preferably a girl to teach you how to dance.  Sometimes
> >> >>>> keeping a drink in your hand will give you an excuse not to dance.
> >> >>>> Personally, I avoid dance clubs like the plague if at all possible;
> >> >>>> however, there are just times in social situations where 
> you just have
> >> >>>> to shake a leg.  Do the best you can.  Just move your hips and try to
> >> >>>> keep up with the beat.  There are a lot of other people out 
> there with
> >> >>>> you who can't dance either.  They also look terrible.  If you drink,
> >> >>>> it loosen's you up just a little.  It doen't make you better, you jus
> >> >>>> think you are.  Smile just a little even if you don't like 
> dancing, or
> >> >>>> aren't very good at it.  The appearance of enjoyment, or 
> hopefully you
> >> >>>> are actually enjoying your self, lets everyone see that you are
> >> >>>> confident; you can't dance and you know it, but you don't care.  It
> >> >>>> helps.  I feel you man; I'm in the same boat as you accept I have
> >> >>>> learned a few tricks to fake it until I can get off of the dance
> >> >>>> floor.  I get fairly drunk on nights like that if I go out with a
> >> >>>> group of people because I am using trips to the bar as an 
> excuse not to
> >> >>> dance.  Remember, if possible, get a friend, especially a 
> girl to teach
> >> >>> you.
> >> >>>>
> >> >>>>
> >> >>>> -----Original Message-----
> >> >>>> From: nabs-l [mailto:nabs-l-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Darian
> >> >>>> Smith
> >> >>>> Sent: Monday, May 13, 2013 6:36 PM
> >> >>>> To: National Association of Blind Students mailing list
> >> >>>> Subject: [nabs-l] CanI dance if I want to?
> >> >>>>
> >> >>>> Hi all,
> >> >>>> Please  excuse  the slight 80's song reference,  but I am curious
> >> >>>> about how you all go about attending social functions where 
> dancing is
> >> >>>> a part of the atmosphere?
> >> >>>> Do you decide to not  take part in it because you don't know how to
> >> >>>> dance?
> >> >>>> are you too shy?   Do you just get out there regardless?
> >> >>>> On Dancing, how do you learn how to dance  if you can't do what a lot
> >> >>>> of folks do and watch it  on television  or the internet?
> >> >>>> Thanks!
> >> >>>>
> >> >>>> Darian
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