[nabs-l] offensive questions

[The weird writer]

The restaurant bustles with activity as my date and I sit opposite each 
other, talking about ourselves and what we do. To my immediate right, a 
woman is talking to her mom on her cell phone about the baseball game 
she missed. Different smells bounce off my nose as men and women pass us 
making their way to their tables. Dishes clatter in the kitchen behind 
me, and my date’s cologne, masked over with deodorant, sprays my sense 
of smell as I gaze towards his ebony accented voice. We’re chatting 
jovially, our laughter dicing holes in conversations around us, making 
people stop, and, I'm sure, stare at this interracial gay couple.

When the dishes come, we get into the topic of careers. He's a teacher. 
With a mouth full, and hesitation dotting his syllables like rain, he 
asks me a very important question.

“If you’re blind, how can you be a journalist?”

Instantly the talons rise, and my fingers toy with the idea of creeping 
towards his throat. A dozen retorts bang into my head as if it were a 
chamber full of bullets, ready to blast this rude insensitive sighted 
person away. After a split second however, I suddenly realize that he's 
never seen adaptive technology, and he's never seen a Braille display, 
and he's certainly never seen a victor reader stream or a computer with 
a screen reader before. He's not in my world and he never was. Taking a 
deep breath, I explain how I'm a journalist when I'm blind, all with a 
huge smile on my face. The reason I choose to answer all his questions, 
and many others, instead of following my gut instinct to be sarcastic 
is, he may not be in my world, but I know he can be if I just teach him.

Whenever I hang around blind people and we make jokes about speech 
synthesizers that sighted people wouldn't understand a sentence is 
uttered without fail. Sooner or later, we get to talking about sighted 
people and their lack of blindness knowledge. The words fly at me like 
sharp bullets that are not meant for me. They’re angry at the sighted 
people who ask us how we type on a computer. It's an angry question 
that's become a common one in the blindness community.

“They should know better. Why are they so stupid?”

When that's uttered, I immediately see things through the sighted point 
of view. The truth is, they won’t be an expert about blindness ways or 
technology. They shouldn’t know better because no one knows everything, 
especially about a different way of living. They shouldn’t know better. 
Instead, we have to get angry less, and educate more.

Education is the key of knowledge that will turn itself, unlocking the 
right doors if the right direction is given. Among the disabled 
community who tend to get angry when they're asked to educate, this 
applies to people with HIV and aids as well.

I've seen countless instances where someone with HIV or AIDS gets 
offended when a potential partner asks him if he will contract if they 
exchange saliva. The contracted person became offended, and stormed off, 
hurt. Upon further investigation, I learned that his date didn't even 
know what HIV did. He didn't even know that it didn't have a cure.

A lot of people say ignorance is bliss, but it's also a divider. Even 
today, the biggest hurtle that we all have to overcome is inclusion and 
acceptance, even among the gay community, disabled community, and HIV 
community. In today's day and age, just simple curiosity could ruin a 
good friendship or relationship because of “offensive questions.” That 
divide grows because we are easily offended at the questions we asked 
ourselves at one point.

When I was learning the bus route for my daily commutes, I wondered if 
it would even work, me having to travel on the bus for field reporting. 
I've asked the same question as my restaurant date. “How am I going to 
be a journalist?” with patience, and persistence, I figured out the 
answers with trial and error and learning from my own past mistakes. If 
I would have let my own question offend me then I wouldn't have figured 
out the answer.

I don't have HIV but I had to ask the above question in order to find 
out that you can't get HIV from a small exchange of saliva. I know now 
how to better do my job as a blind journalist because I had to find an 
answer. I couldn't let those two questions go unanswered. If I did, then 
how blissful would I be, ignorant about knowledge that would help 
someone else as well as me in the future.

I don't think anyone should remain in the dark if I have an answer to a 
question. Answers, with all their simplicity sprinkle awareness along 
with their validity. Not far behind awareness comes understanding, and 
soon, acceptance. An answer to a seemingly offensive question doesn't 
just satisfy curiosity but it opens up a door to understand. There are a 
lot of other positive things behind that door even if they’re not 
visible immediately. Some effects are immediate, such as inclusion, and 
others are far off, such as advocacy born from awareness.

When I look around and see a world that's divided as it is, I don’t want 
to divide it even more just because someone asks me how I use a 
computer. If education breeds positive results then people who live in 
different conditions should educate others how they do it. it's the only 
way to end these “offensive questions.”

The goal of inclusion is to do just that, include. My sighted date lives 
in an ethnic world I'll never completely understand because I've never 
lived through the discriminatory history but I can ask questions, and 
with each answer, I'm no longer on the outside anymore. We’re together. 
With every answer I give about my adaptive life, we’re coming together 
in a way that offended people won’t be able to do for a very long time. 
He understands me now and that's the most valuable education I could 
ever give.

If people really want to have us unite to stand for a positive voice 
then we can't widen the distance because we’re offended at questions. 
Instead, we should open our world to people and share as much as we can, 
if asked. If we keep doing that I know that the door will open wide 
enough to let all of us through to a better world, a world where we all 
know each other, stand for one another, and unite for equality and 
embrace the best teacher of all, differences. That would make a 
beautifully educated world, one where I’d be happy to say that this 
positive change was the result of answering offensive questions.

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