[nabs-l] "you are amazing"

Sandra Gayer sandragayer7 at gmail.com
Fri Nov 15 18:25:12 UTC 2013


In general, it's best to just accept it with good grace.

Very best wishes,
Sandra.

On 11/15/13, Mary Fernandez <trillian551 at gmail.com> wrote:
> I just compliment them on their willingness to admit a self-evident
> truth, that of my awesomeness! Lol. I kid!
> I think it depends on the context. If I'm walking, and someone says
> I'm amazing, and if I have time, I'll ask why? If they tell me because
> I can walk, I point out that they can to. If they say that I can
> almost run in six-inch heels, when the situation calls for it, I'll
> say, how much practice I've had. I suppose it's nice to be inspiring
> to people, but I simply cannot see myself as inspiring, when all I'm
> doing is walking.
> I think that learning to take compliments is an important and useful
> skill to have. I find that I'm a lot more comfortable with criticism
> than I am with compliments of any type. And part of that is that I
> want to be seen holistically, and not have my blindness be the thing
> which people focus on. And that's why I insist and making people think
> through what they say if I have the time. As blind people, we are just
> people. And typically, you don't go around telling people they are
> amazing just when you see them walking down the street. For all they
> know, I'm a horrible human being, who hates puppies, bunnies and
> penguins. Oh, and ducks. How could anyone hate ducks?
> All that is to say, that I agree, that when you are being  told you
> are amazing, and you are not aware of having just made a display of
> your awesomenss, aside from  gracing  the universe with your presence,
> it is a good conversation starter, and educational opportunity.
> Whether its fashion or blindness you choose to educate on, is up to
> you.
>
> Mary
>
> On 11/15/13, Joe <jsoro620 at gmail.com> wrote:
>> Darian,
>>
>> You are not amazing. Does that help you feel better? LOL I think Tyler's
>> response had the right of it. To be honest, I shrug off the compliment,
>> deflect it with a compliment about something the person does better than
>> I
>> do, and move on. In a world where there are maybe not enough good things
>> said about people, I almost think it's nice that people bother to say
>> that
>> anyone is amazing at all. As for you sir, no one can motivate people to
>> community service like you can, so you just keep on being your amazing
>> self
>> and never mind the rest.
>>
>> Joe
>>
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: nabs-l [mailto:nabs-l-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Darian Smith
>> Sent: Friday, November 15, 2013 11:42 AM
>> To: National Association of Blind Students mailing list
>> Subject: [nabs-l] "you are amazing"
>>
>>  Hi all,
>>
>>   I am sure  that all of us  have had someone tell us  that we are
>> amazing
>> at one time or another.
>>   Many times we are convinced  this  is because  the person telling us
>> has
>> a
>> low expectation  of blind  people.
>>   When we are convinced  of this, how do we communicate that we are not
>> amazing, do this with a positive attitude, and finally do you or do you
>> not
>> find yourself being offended by the statement?
>>
>>   Darian
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>
>
> --
> Mary Fernandez
> "I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will
> forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them
> feel."
>> Maya Angelou
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