[nabs-l] "you are amazing"

Fri Nov 15 22:56:36 UTC 2013

Hi, Sandra, and everybody,

         Yes, if the situation happens not to 
afford an opportunity to go into all that 
technical crap, just graciously accept, nowing it 
is what they need to hear. It's okay. :25 AM 11/15/2013, Sandra Gayer wrote:
>In general, it's best to just accept it with good grace.
>
>Very best wishes,
>Sandra.
>
>On 11/15/13, Mary Fernandez <trillian551 at gmail.com> wrote:
> > I just compliment them on their willingness to admit a self-evident
> > truth, that of my awesomeness! Lol. I kid!
> > I think it depends on the context. If I'm walking, and someone says
> > I'm amazing, and if I have time, I'll ask why? If they tell me because
> > I can walk, I point out that they can to. If they say that I can
> > almost run in six-inch heels, when the situation calls for it, I'll
> > say, how much practice I've had. I suppose it's nice to be inspiring
> > to people, but I simply cannot see myself as inspiring, when all I'm
> > doing is walking.
> > I think that learning to take compliments is an important and useful
> > skill to have. I find that I'm a lot more comfortable with criticism
> > than I am with compliments of any type. And part of that is that I
> > want to be seen holistically, and not have my blindness be the thing
> > which people focus on. And that's why I insist and making people think
> > through what they say if I have the time. As blind people, we are just
> > people. And typically, you don't go around telling people they are
> > amazing just when you see them walking down the street. For all they
> > know, I'm a horrible human being, who hates puppies, bunnies and
> > penguins. Oh, and ducks. How could anyone hate ducks?
> > All that is to say, that I agree, that when you are being  told you
> > are amazing, and you are not aware of having just made a display of
> > your awesomenss, aside from  gracing  the universe with your presence,
> > it is a good conversation starter, and educational opportunity.
> > Whether its fashion or blindness you choose to educate on, is up to
> > you.
> >
> > Mary
> >
> > On 11/15/13, Joe <jsoro620 at gmail.com> wrote:
> >> Darian,
> >>
> >> You are not amazing. Does that help you feel better? LOL I think Tyler's
> >> response had the right of it. To be honest, I shrug off the compliment,
> >> deflect it with a compliment about something the person does better than
> >> I
> >> do, and move on. In a world where there are maybe not enough good things
> >> said about people, I almost think it's nice that people bother to say
> >> that
> >> anyone is amazing at all. As for you sir, no one can motivate people to
> >> community service like you can, so you just keep on being your amazing
> >> self
> >> and never mind the rest.
> >>
> >> Joe
> >>
> >> -----Original Message-----
> >> From: nabs-l [mailto:nabs-l-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Darian Smith
> >> Sent: Friday, November 15, 2013 11:42 AM
> >> To: National Association of Blind Students mailing list
> >> Subject: [nabs-l] "you are amazing"
> >>
> >>  Hi all,
> >>
> >>   I am sure  that all of us  have had someone tell us  that we are
> >> amazing
> >> at one time or another.
> >>   Many times we are convinced  this  is because  the person telling us
> >> has
> >> a
> >> low expectation  of blind  people.
> >>   When we are convinced  of this, how do we communicate that we are not
> >> amazing, do this with a positive attitude, and finally do you or do you
> >> not
> >> find yourself being offended by the statement?
> >>
> >>   Darian
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> >
> > --
> > Mary Fernandez
> > "I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will
> > forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them
> > feel."
> > —
> > Maya Angelou
> >
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