[nabs-l] family's misunderstandings of the real world

[johnnie Jean duran]

Hi,
I can totally relate to you, due to the fact that I was going through
a very similar situation at one point. You may not be able to see the
world, but you are still a part of it, and it seems to me that you are
totally living in reality. You do pay your bills, make your own meals,
and possibly live independently, however I think your cousin is saying
this because you do not have an occupation. She needs to come upon the
understanding that it's not easy for a blind or sighted person to find
a job within our acconimy these days. Also, about the dating
situation, I have dated both a blind and sighted guy before, and I
don't think that most guys care that you are blind, I think they would
pay more attention to your personality. But, there is definitely
nothing wrong with dating a blind man, he may understand you more that
a sighted man will, or you may like him more than everybody knows. In
my opinion, eventually your cousin will come to an understanding about
your life, however, she/he may never completely understand.
I hope this helps,
JJ

On 11/20/13, Beth Taurasi <denverqueen1107 at comcast.net> wrote:
> Hi, all.
> I was recently Facebook chatting my cousin and she accused me of doing
> the following things:
> 1. Obsession with my latest boyfriend, who she might have a problem with
> because he is blind.
> 2. She said I should be open to dating sighted people, yes, Arielle, you
> are married to a sighted man, but not all sighted people like a blind
> woman, and statistically it isn't true that sighted people will go out
> with blind women.
> 3. She says that blind people can do things, but she says I don't
> understand the real world.  What? I told her I do understand the real
> world, I pay my bills, I save money, I work with money. I don't pay
> taxes because in my understanding of the so-called "real world", SSI is
> not taxable, and finding a job for me is hard because I am dually disabled.
> I need help also convincing her that parenting is possible even with my
> particular disabilities.  I've tried referring her to NFB's parenting
> without Sight thingies, and she doesn't seem interested. I have a lot of
> friends on here so I'm posing this question.  Also, she says I should
> move back to Florida, but after all this stuff I've been through back
> there, I said to her, "No.  I've got all I need in Denver."
> Please help.
> Beth
>
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