[nabs-l] family's misunderstandings of the real world

[Beth Taurasi]

On 11/20/2013 9:39 AM, Daniel Romero wrote:
> Hi Beth,
> 1. Yeah though she might have a problem with your latest boyfriend
> because he's blind, and you might have become obsessive, all our
> families want is the best for us. Obsessive is okay, you're in the
> honeymoon stage, it's normal. But the blind factor is something our
> families are always going to feel a little nervous about as they
> think/feel/want to be secure that we'll always have someone there
> who's sighted ready to help us in whatever we may need help with.
> That's not saying your family doubts your abilities, but they just
> want the best for you at the end of the day.
> 2. Just because she's giving you this piece of advice, don't shut it
> down because you currently have a blind boyfriend and you're sitting
> on top of the world. She's just giving you some words of advice. No
> one ever said you had to comply with them. And from experience, a
> sighted guy will date/approach a blind woman faster than a sighted
> woman would a blind man. (Lol but I guess that can be debated).
> 3. Stop trying to prove yourself to someone. We as blind people spend
> so much time, trying to impress/change the minds of people who don't
> live in our shoes everyday, that we get so flustered, (Which you
> already have gotten). If she doesn't think you live the real world,
> let her think that. If she doesn't want to be a part of the NFB
> parents of blind children group, then she doesn't have too. Live your
> life. If you're happy, you do the things you do for your reasons that
> bennifit you, then do it. Stop trying to make the world happy around
> you when at the end of the day, all that matters is your happiness and
> what you're comfortable with.
> Might have came off pushy in this e-mail, I just don't want you giving
> power to those who don't/won't understand and won't take the time out
> to view what life is like in your shoes.
> Take care!
>
> On 11/20/13, Beth Taurasi <denverqueen1107 at comcast.net> wrote:
>> Hi, all.
>> I was recently Facebook chatting my cousin and she accused me of doing
>> the following things:
>> 1. Obsession with my latest boyfriend, who she might have a problem with
>> because he is blind.
>> 2. She said I should be open to dating sighted people, yes, Arielle, you
>> are married to a sighted man, but not all sighted people like a blind
>> woman, and statistically it isn't true that sighted people will go out
>> with blind women.
>> 3. She says that blind people can do things, but she says I don't
>> understand the real world.  What? I told her I do understand the real
>> world, I pay my bills, I save money, I work with money. I don't pay
>> taxes because in my understanding of the so-called "real world", SSI is
>> not taxable, and finding a job for me is hard because I am dually disabled.
>> I need help also convincing her that parenting is possible even with my
>> particular disabilities.  I've tried referring her to NFB's parenting
>> without Sight thingies, and she doesn't seem interested. I have a lot of
>> friends on here so I'm posing this question.  Also, she says I should
>> move back to Florida, but after all this stuff I've been through back
>> there, I said to her, "No.  I've got all I need in Denver."
>> Please help.
>> Beth
>>
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Thank you for your advice.  I'd like my cousins and family to realize 
that I do live in the real world and there's nothing wrong with what I'm 
doing currently.  I don't have a current occupation because of economic 
reasons, and that's understandable.
Beth