[nabs-l] Families misunderstanding real world

[Lavar Phillips]

Don't give up if you need to talk call me I don't mind I hope things get
better for you

Lavar J Phillips
5003 48 Street Woodside New York 11377
Cell # (917) 858 3368
Twitter lavar1988
On Nov 21, 2013 12:58 PM, "Beth Taurasi" <denverqueen1107 at comcast.net>
wrote:

> You're so weird. *grin*  I say that to all those who get the point right.
>  I recently got a firestorm of bad comments and a false statement made to
> me on Facebook regarding my capabilities to date due to mental health
> issues.  An old VI teacher even said I had to have legal action taken to
> ensure that I don't chase after boys.  WEll, that was high school, this is
> post college.  I'm not in college and could not finish my degree because of
> all this drama surrounding my life, and this is just what my family wants
> me to do, give up, resign, etc.  Blake is a really great guy and I don't
> deserve this unsupportive comment right now.
> Beth
> On 11/21/2013 9:53 AM, Bridgit Pollpeter wrote:
>
>> Beth,
>>
>> Unfortunately, this will just happen sometimes in life, whether it be
>> family, friends or strangers. At the end of the day, you just need to
>> move forward and not even deal with people like this. It's difficult
>> with family, but I wouldn't engage them unless at a family gathering. If
>> they seek you out, ignore it. You living your life will prove more than
>> any words.
>>
>> I'm a formally sighted person, but when I lost my sight, I didn't really
>> think one way over another about dating a blind person or sighted
>> person. Some people in my life assumed I would need a sighted person to
>> care for me, but I didn't really accept that concept. Plus, I don't like
>> being told what I can and can not do, grin.
>>
>> My husband is also blind, but it has nothing to do with sight or
>> blindness. We met, and it was just the right person. He could have been
>> a Martian for all it mattered, because eight years later, I know it was
>> the right decision, right person.
>>
>> I wasn't even looking for a relationship at the time; it just happened.
>> Though I have my list, disability wasn't on it, or at least was on the
>> bottom. I saw him for him, and he saw me for me. We were not looking at
>> a single aspect of one another or what the other could do for us. And
>> let me tell you, love at first sight is possible when blind, smile.
>>
>> Don't think in terms of sighted or blind, disabled or not. Don't assume
>> no one wants to date you because you're blind. Be confident, try things
>> like initiating conversation, and just be your self. If a guy doesn't
>> want to be involved, that's his loss.
>>
>> Plus, let me guess, you're in your 20's right? There's plenty of time to
>> settle down. There's nothing wrong with being single, and if you feel
>> you're ready for a relationship, put yourself out there, but stop
>> thinking blindness is a strike against you. This negative aura will be
>> picked up by others.
>>
>> As for children, I have a very
>> Active 15 month-old, and I'm a stay-at-home parent right now. Not only
>> am I able to competently and safely raise a child, but I've been
>> recognized in my community for doing so. Though I'm doing nothing
>> spectacular, the local media has put a spotlight on me and my family
>> since Ross and I are blind parents. We've had an amazing opportunity to
>> demonstrate how it's possible to be a blind parent. And honestly, I do
>> little differently than a sighted parent. Raising kids isn't easy, but
>> it really shouldn't be more difficult for blind people than anyone else.
>>
>> So, present your argument diplomatically and intelligently, but really,
>> that's all you can do. It's up to others to accept what you present, and
>> if they're close-minded, that's not your problem. Know you are just as
>> capable of dating, being independent, raising children and anything else
>> as a sighted person.
>>
>> Which BTW, my Little Guy is squeezing himself into a very tight spot
>> trying to reach some cords. Better run, grin!
>>
>> Bridgit
>>
>>
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