[nabs-l] Arielle's point about people being infantilized at home

[Peter Donahue]

Good evening everyone,

This is far from being nonsense! It's an all too familiar problem that no 
one seems to have figured out how to address. Social Security law does 
permit parents or guardians of disabled individuals living with them to 
receive benefits as they are providing care to such persons. It becomes a 
problem when unscrupulous parents, relatives, or guardians do all within 
their power to discourage or not permitting disabled individuals to move out 
on their own so they would lose the monthly benefit check they receive. 
Never mind that the blind person is quite capable of living independently as 
long as they can continue to receive Social Security payments for having 
that person live with them they'll do all within their power to hang on to 
that benefit check with little or no consideration of the rights of the 
blind individual and their wishes to live away from home and function 
independently and create a high quality of life than what they have being 
stuck under their parents roof.

    Much to her credit my mother could have easily been tempted to keep me 
living with her so she could continue to receive Social Security for 
providing for my needs but she recognized that I needed to make my own way 
in this World, that she wouldn't be around to care for me for my entire life 
(Something that has come to pass as she died the day before Thanksgiving 
2009) that We're all entitled to live independent and productive lives and 
that selfish individuals like that do great harm to and a great disservice 
to their blind children or spouses whatever the case may be. I would hope 
that Social Security would scrutinize claims made by disabled adults still 
living at home to insure that there are indeed valid reasons for their 
remaining with a parent or guardian and that they are not being exploited 
simply so these caretakers can mooch off the Government at the expense of 
the rights and dignity of the blind individual. This is a very real problem 
and one I hope the NFB addresses more aggressively in the future. All the 
best.

Peter Donahue





----- Original Message ----- 
From: "RJ Sandefur" <joltingjacksandefur at gmail.com>
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Sent: Saturday, April 26, 2014 3:52 PM
Subject: Re: [nabs-l] Arielle's point about people being infantilized at 
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> Beth, This isn't about you! Please quit posting this nonsense on the list! 
> Dr. Robert Sandefur
> ----- Original Message ----- 
> From: "wmodnl wmodnl" <wmodnl at hotmail.com>
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> Sent: Saturday, April 26, 2014 3:22 PM
> Subject: Re: [nabs-l] Arielle's point about people being infantilized at 
> home
>
>
>> Good afternoon,
>> Let's not forget the following paradox that happens. Maybe this was 
>> mentioned already.  I apologize if this was already discussed.
>> Remember, on a continuum, people with disabilities receive the standard 
>> SSI/SSDI funding. As a result, families often view this as a extra 
>> pay-check.  Families will find ways to keep this money coming in, for 
>> various reasons.  Hope this helps.  Have a good day.
>>
>>
>> Sent from my iPad
>>
>>> On Apr 25, 2014, at 4:19 PM, "Beth Taurasi" 
>>> <denverqueen1107 at comcast.net> wrote:
>>>
>>> Dear List,
>>> You all are right about the transit issues and the parental treatment of 
>>> blind peple at their own parents' homes.  I was infantilized to the 
>>> point whre a legal contract was set up so that I couldn't move out. 
>>> Some parents seriously don't know what they're talking about.  Some 
>>> honestly think it's ok to infantilize their young because of the 
>>> person's blindness or other disabilities, but it isn't ok.  I'm honestly 
>>> wanting to say something honest: it affects relationships too.  Arielle, 
>>> you were right about the whole thing you posted.  It reminds me of my 
>>> college days, and going to Colorado was something I had to do, it just 
>>> wasn't something I could simply choose.  I feel it was something I 
>>> absolutely had to do.  AS a Coloradan, I'm sorry to say this, but I'm 
>>> going to do what ever I can with my life to make it full and productive. 
>>> Happy is another word I would use to describe what I want my life to be. 
>>> But the thing is, my current boyfriend is being infantilized as Arielle 
>>> said in her list post, and it's even worse now with his brother who 
>>> died.  I don't know how to tell the rest of the world that I love him 
>>> without being criticized for being "obsessed" with a "wrong" man.  Blake 
>>> is the right person for me right now, and this infantile behavior that 
>>> his mother is doing is affecting us.  Sorry to vent.
>>> Beth
>>>
>>> -- 
>>> Check out my Wordpress blog: denverqueen.wordpress.com or you can reach 
>>> me by skype at denverqueen0920
>>>
>>>
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