[nabs-l] highschool question

[Aleeha Dudley]

Unfortunately, even when you are joking and lighthearted about your blindness, it doesn't always work. I had a really difficult experience in high school, we're almost no one would speak to me. I had people making fun of me constantly in the hallways, and jumping over my cane, which caused it to snap at one point. One girl decided that it would be funny to walk up behind me, clap her hands, and say "hey, there's someone in front of you. "So, it really is hit or miss. I think there are people who will respect you for who you are, but I also don't think that just because you are comfortable with yourself means that other people will immediately be comfortable with you, because, let's face it, you're in a school full of teenagers, and sometimes, teenagers are not the most open-minded.

Aleeha Dudley and seeing eye dog Dallas 
Vice President, Ohio Association of blind students
Blindcowgirl1993 at gmail.com
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> On Aug 29, 2014, at 7:33 PM, Sofia Gallo via nabs-l <nabs-l at nfbnet.org> wrote:
> 
> Totally agree with Marissa, I've had a similar experience and I joke
> about stuff all the time (smile)
> 
>> On 8/29/14, Marissa Tejeda via nabs-l <nabs-l at nfbnet.org> wrote:
>> I know this may sound...  (lack for a word right now).
>> I have made friends very easily all my life.  High school may
>> seem hard, but it really isn't.  (smiles)
>> I'm in the tenth grade, and have bunches of friends.  I am in
>> band, but when I play with the others, no one notices I'm blind.
>> It would help if I had some music, but that's a different story.
>> I did perform in a pep rally last year.  I got two standing
>> ovations, (there were two rallies so everyone in the school could
>> go).
>> I sat at a table by myself, one day.  (This was just this week.)
>> Two girls sat across from me.  I didn't talk, so they didn't talk
>> to me, (same would have happened, had I been able to see).  Then,
>> my friends, Michelle and Jessica, came and sat by me.  I started
>> talking with them; the two girls that sat across from me were
>> friends of there's.  we ended up having a great time and now, I
>> can ALMOST tell them by voice.  I still get confused between
>> Michelle and Jessica, but I'm getting better.
>> 
>> Just be open about it.  This may sound cruel to some, but I'm so
>> open about my blindness, I'll joke about it in class.  "I can't
>> see the board, can I move?" or someone says, "I'll see you
>> tomorrow, Marissa." I'll turn, look at them, and say, "I won't."
>> It gets people laughing.  I answer questions about being blind,
>> whenever I'm asked.  Some people are shy; just say, "It's ok, you
>> can ask."
>> They think they will offend you.  Just let them know that they
>> won't.
>> 
>> If you need any help, feel free to email me off-list.
>> 
>> 
>> ----- Original Message -----
>> From: Ana Martinez via nabs-l <nabs-l at nfbnet.org
>> To: nabs-l at nfbnet.org
>> Date sent: Fri, 29 Aug 2014 09:08:49 -0600
>> Subject: [nabs-l] highschool question
>> 
>> hi all I have a question, how do you make friends in highschool,
>> for
>> me it has been difficult because there a lot of students and in
>> all of
>> my classes there are different kids ,
>> 
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