[nabs-l] When NFB philosophy doesn't seem to work... advice?

Wed Feb 5 02:31:04 UTC 2014

Hi, Bobbi,

Don't you think someone oughta deal with the problem directly, 
personally and not do something so chicken shit as block your number?
for today, Car
4908-209-3239

>I would suggest calling her house and speaking with her parents. Or 
>having her phone number blocked.
>
>Bobbi A. L. Pompey
>(336) 988-6375
>pompey2010 at yahoo.com
>http://pompey2050.wix.com/bobbi-pompey
>
> > On Dec 27, 2013, at 5:29 PM, Kaiti Shelton 
> <crazy4clarinet104 at gmail.com> wrote:
> >
> > Hi all,
> >
> > I have quite the puzzling situation on my hands, and I am not quite
> > sure how to handle it.  Thoughts?
> >
> > Almost four years ago my mom and I went to this 3 day seminar for
> > students in the state voc rehab program with visual impairments.  This
> > Friday evening to Sunday morning seminar was designed to show students
> > and parents from around the state different employment options that
> > were available, ranging from vending and call center jobs to taking
> > the college route to get a degree in a two or four year program.  A
> > friend of mine and I, who lived close to each other, were hanging out
> > early on.   All of a sudden, this other girl was hanging all over him
> > and would not give him his personal space.  It was very odd,
> > considering that this was a very short period of time in which this
> > all happened.  Less than 24 hours after the students had met, my
> > friend was so creeped out by the almost constant and unwanted
> > attention that he began to avoid this girl.  Other students, seeing
> > how creeped out he was and some creeped out themselves due to the same
> > thing, ended up following suit.
> >
> > I was sixteen at the time, and could feel for my friend.  The girl was
> > very much in my face a lot of the time too, but I was a bit more
> > patient with her throughout the weekend.  She seemed to be worse with
> > the guys than the girls too, so I had a little more space than my
> > friend.
> >
> > About 3 months after the program in the summertime, she started
> > calling my house.  The parents at the program were given a list of the
> > other parents who attended, along with their phone numbers, so they
> > could swap resources if they so chose.  This girl got the list from
> > her parents, and was using it to call me and my friend, possibly other
> > students as well although I am not sure.  The calls started off being
> > about once every so often, then increased.  She was a very odd girl,
> > and liked to complain and cry about her problems to me and my friend.
> > There was nothing social about the calls, just complaining and
> > negativity, and mumbling which was really weird.  He quit talking to
> > her much sooner than I did because I tried to get her to see that
> > being visually impaired, (she didn't like the word blind since she was
> > a large print reader, and kind of used that to elivate herself above
> > other people), was not the worst thing in the world.  She would cry
> > and complain, and even tell me I didn't understand how bad things
> > were, when her descriptions of things made it sound like she was very
> > overdramatic.  I decided at the end of my junior year, a year after
> > the calls started coming, that I didn't want to talk to a downer, and
> > that I wasn't going to be able to convince her that blindness didn't
> > mean the end of the world.
> >
> > The girl continued to call.  My senior year was very busy with
> > activities and preparing for college.  I would come home from marching
> > band practices to find my siblings quite frustrated because the girl
> > had kept calling, sometimes as much as 5 or 6 times in a span of a few
> > hours.  They didn't want to answer the phone because whenever someone
> > told her I wasn't home she would instantly get teary and mumble things
> > to herself, and it was very weird, but they didn't want her to
> > continue calling either.  I remember one night over Christmas break of
> > that year, she called and when I told her I was getting ready to leave
> > the house, which I was to go pick up someone coming in from out of
> > town for the holidays with my family, she got angry and wanted me to
> > give her my cell phone number.  I told her that I didn't want to give
> > it out, and she started to get upset.  Then I really had to go, and
> > there was the characteristic mumbling.
> >
> > My parents have told me that for the past year and a half that I've
> > been in college that the girl has continued to call.  My mom has told
> > her that I live at school and do not come home much multiple times.
> > My younger siblings, in frustration, have told her that I've moved
> > away and have begun making up different things to tell her to try to
> > discourage her from calling.  She continues to call, and around
> > Christmas it is always terrible.  A few nights ago she called when my
> > parents were asleep a little after  11:00 at night, and has apparently
> > called and left messages late at night before.  My parents have to get
> > up very early for work, so In order to stop the ringing and to prevent
> > a message from playing over the machine I had to answer.  Everything
> > was exactly the same.  I was heading to bed myself, so I told her that
> > I was asleep when she asked for me.  The fact that she had called at
> > such a late hour didn't seem to phase her, there was just the mumbling
> > and usual stuff coming over the line.
> >
> > I don't quite know what to do.  I've tried to be positive with her and
> > that hasn't worked.  My family has told her that I no longer live at
> > home and am away at school among other things in frustration, but
> > nothing seems to phase her.  I know she still calls my friend's house
> > as well, even though he does not live at home any more either.  I
> > don't quite know what to do about this.  I barely know her and she
> > barely knows me, and in spite of this I have tried to help her with no
> > success.  My parents and siblings have said that we should just block
> > her calls, but I have hesitated in doing this while I was in high
> > school because I didn't want to be mean, and then I honestly forgot
> > about her for the most part while I was at school last year and last
> > semester because I can't get calls from her there.  After the call a
> > few nights ago, I don't really know what to think.  I am slightly
> > creeped out that even after my parents have told her I am not home for
> > the past year and a half that the calls are still coming.  What do you
> > think I should do?
> >
> >  --
> > Kaiti
> >
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