[nabs-l] Social skills and blindness

[Lillie Pennington]

Another option may be to use a cane and or sited guide to get your food. I personally will carry my plate and either use my cane under my arm and either follow the person by using vision or by keeping up a conversation. 

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> On Mar 5, 2014, at 10:03 PM, "justin williams" <justin.williams2 at gmail.com> wrote:
> 
> However, just do the best you can, and enjoy yourself.
> 
> -----Original Message-----
> From: nabs-l [mailto:nabs-l-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Loren Wakefield
> Sent: Wednesday, March 05, 2014 9:55 PM
> To: 'National Association of Blind Students mailing list';
> jsoro620 at gmail.com
> Subject: Re: [nabs-l] Social skills and blindness
> 
> To me, if I ask someone to help with the buffett, than I am still in control
> of the situation.  That is part of independence to me.  Because of other
> health issues, I seldom carry my plate in a public restaurant.  
> 
> I think that sometimes a le dysfunction of the wonderful federation
> philosophy is that it makes one feel like if he or she is not a superstar,
> than you are letting down other blind individuals.  Even cDoctor Jernigan
> walked with someone if it was more productive to do so.  Independence does
> not mean one is a super human.  If it does, I've failed many times and
> probably will never achieve it.  And what does it say if you determination
> to do absolubely everything on your own, stops you from enjoying life or
> advancing in your career?  Doesn't that dreffeat the purpose?  
> 
> Loren 
> 
> 
> 
> -----Original Message-----
> From: nabs-l [mailto:nabs-l-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Chris Nusbaum
> Sent: Wednesday, March 05, 2014 8:01 PM
> To: jsoro620 at gmail.com; 'National Association of Blind Students mailing
> list'
> Subject: Re: [nabs-l] Social skills and blindness
> 
> Dear Listers:
> 
> Joe, very well said. Regarding buffet lines, sighted people in my experience
> often ask someone else to load their plate for them, whether a staff member
> or another person with whom they are eating. This, in fact, is a principle
> which sighted people tend to follow in many situations--they ask for help
> when that would best serve their needs at any given time, and they go it