[nabs-l] dealing with parrents in a personal decision setting

[Jorge Paez]

Hi all:
Thanks for your thoughts.
Kaiti, for me its exactly the reverse of your case--in that I'm the
youngest one, so the last one to leave home.
I'll see what happens from here until August.
I have decided to go to a local training center, and I'll be taking
classes from the light house in O&M and so on, so maybe that will
slowly open up things a bit too.

Thanks,

Jorge


On 11/13/14, Kaiti Shelton via nabs-l <nabs-l at nfbnet.org> wrote:
> Hi all,
>
> One of the things I asked my parents to do was to give me a chance.
> Granted, my family didn't have as much of a choice because I'm in a
> major that is only offered at specific colleges, but my mom especially
> was really scared.  She'd also use the college thing as a
> privilledge---which it is, but she'd say, "If you don't do this I
> won't let you go to UD.  I'll only be out the $400 deposit.
>
> My first semester had her really nervous.  She got mad at me for
> walking home at night (Sorry mom, it's a thing called class that
> starts at 7:30), and she'd also get super nervous when she saw that
> the weather in my school city was bad.  She tried to give me a TV
> several times because she was concerned about my ability to check the
> weather, even though I promised her that I use the internet and
> wouldn't have time to watch TV anyway, besides at home I don't even
> watch TV that much.  She was also worried that the school would give
> me trouble.  After the first semester she eased up, and especially
> after the first year she calmed down.  I think some of the issues were
> related to my blindness, but it was mainly because I'm her oldest kid
> going off to school.  I think that college is just as much of a
> transition for the parents as it is for you, especially if you're the
> first kid to go, so just try to keep that in mind.  On the other hand
> though, stand up for what you want.  Ultimately, it's your future and
> your degree you're after, and if you like a particular school or a
> specific program for your major, then you should definitely go for it.
>
> Hope this helps.
>
> On 11/13/14, Shikha via nabs-l <nabs-l at nfbnet.org> wrote:
>> Thanks for bringing this topic up because i am dealing with the same
>> situation.  I am currently attending a comunity college and i commute
>> from
>> home. There are no busses in my area so my parents drop me up and pick me
>> up
>> to my college.
>> Luckily i only have class on Monday and Wednesday, but even though i
>> graduated from the Louisiana  center for the blind i do not think they
>> believe in my independent  skills.  I always have to prove my self to
>> them
>> because i am the only blind person in my family.
>> I am going to transfer to Georgia State in August of 2015 and my parents
>> also do not want me to live on campus.  They told me that i will be
>> struggling a lot.
>>
>> Shikha.
>>
>>> On Nov 13, 2014, at 4:50 PM, Jorge Paez via nabs-l <nabs-l at nfbnet.org>
>>> wrote:
>>>
>>> Hi Nabs:
>>> So, I was wondering something.
>>> So, I've come to a decision on which I'm going to choose something
>>> that my parents aren't comfortable with.
>>> This applies on several personal fronts, but the one relevant to this
>>> list is my desire to go away from home for college.
>>> How do you deal with your parents in this topic?
>>> Because I know I can do it, and my parents generally know as well, but
>>> feel extremely uncomfortable.
>>> I'm their only blind son--I'm actually the only one who's blind in all
>>> my family, so I don't know if their uncomfortable because of usual
>>> non-sight related stuff or specificallybecause of my blindness.
>>> Either way, how do you deal with this?
>>> I've made up my mind, so its not a point of choosing, as much as
>>> telling them my choice and making them feel like they've at least had
>>> a chance to talk to me, and that they understand, not necessarily
>>> agree with, my decision.
>>> Basically, I want to make sure this doesn't end up with anyone feeling
>>> like theey were left out of the conversation.
>>> If you have any suggestions feel free to write me.
>>>
>>> Thanks,
>>>
>>> Jorge
>>>
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