[nabs-l] social strategies at parties

[justin williams]

I don't like the sitting with me part unless you build a relationship with them first or they offer, but asking about the food is a good idea.  Also, eat before you go so it is not necessary that you eat when you are there.

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From: nabs-l [mailto:nabs-l-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Aleeha Dudley via nabs-l
Sent: Monday, January 05, 2015 8:42 PM
To: Vejas Vasiliauskas; National Association of Blind Students mailing list
Subject: Re: [nabs-l] social strategies at parties

I think both of these are fine and are also great conversation starters. Just try to get to know the person. If they are willing to help, odds are they are also going to be willing to talk as well. If they don’t want to help, they’re not worth hanging out with anyway. 
JMT.

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> On Jan 5, 2015, at 8:37 PM, Vejas Vasiliauskas via nabs-l <nabs-l at nfbnet.org> wrote:
> 
> Hi All,
> I'd really appreciate some advice.  I would really like to know what you do in big gatherings where you hardly know anyone.
> Two weeks ago I went to a friend's house because she was sponsoring an event where people could go up and share their writing.  There were about 100 people there, mostly from my high school.  I only knew about 3 of them.  I would normally have hung out with my friend (I prefer to hang out with an individual rather than a group), but since it was at her house last month, she had to tend to all the guests and make sure they had everything they needed.  At dinner we had pizza and other snacks.  I found the kitchen easily because I heard people going in there, but I didn't know exactly where all the food was.  I asked someone where the pizza was and he got me a slice.  Then awhile later someone mentioned more food and I had had no idea that there was any.
> So my questions are:
> 1.  Is it okay to ask someone what all the food options are even if you hardly know them? Do you think that they would normally be willing to tell me?
> 2.  Can I ask that person to sit with me if I don't have anyone to hang out with, or do you think that's too akward?
> In the end everything turned out fine, but I'm just trying to get ideas so that I can feel more comfortable in future parties.
> I have the feeling that a lot of times people want to help but don't because they don't know what to do.
> Thanks,
> Vejas
> 
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