[nabs-l] How to handle creepy blind-obsessed people

[Kaiti Shelton]

Hi all,

I'm sure you're wondering about the strange subject line, but the
situation is exactly how it sounds.  This guy started pestering a
friend of mine who is also blind on campus, and since we've started a
disability organization and have been seen together and he saw my cane
he's now starting to do it to me.  Apparently he has some neurological
problems that are supposedly controled, but the odd behavior isn't
something that we're aware of that can be related to seizure
disorders.  He has admitted to my friend that he has a thing for girls
with disabilities, and since meeting her has been fascinated by blind
chicks.  It was a little disturbing to me when he started sending me
really forward facebook messages and mentioned my friend, and when I
asked her about it the next day she half-jokingly referred to him as
"Her stalker," and told me she'd fill me in further in private, which
she did.  He seems fairly harmless for the time being and she's so far
been successful in just ignoring him or not giving information, and
she certainly made it known that she does not return the liking he
says he has for her, but I still am creeped out a bit by the pattern
of going after blind chicks.  Obviously I haven't given him any
information and have mostly ignored his messages he's been sending me,
but I'm a little hesitant to just block him because he'll probably
show up to the club meetings now that he knows about them.

I've been advised by a male friend of mine to just tell him to back
off and leave me alone, but I'll admit that as a woman who is fairly
identifyable as the only one with a cane and who is unable to see him
coming I don't know if that is the best approach or not.  He hasn't
done anything at this point that is reportable, so I don't quite know
what the best approach would be.  I am pretty creeped out how he
targets disabled women and blind women in particular now, but that
isn't a crime in and of itself.  Thankfully I had class the time when
he showed up to our table hours for our awareness week on campus, and
he didn't show up to the described movie night we just had like he
said he was going to.  I usually have chapter meetings for another
organization directly after the club meetings so I do have an excuse
to leave club by a certain time, but I'm not thrilled by the idea of
this dude showing up and being weird with my friend and I while we're
trying to get work done, or meeting me in person and making it harder
for him to miss me when I'm going about my business on campus.

Don't get me wrong---I totally have ignored creepy online people
before in the few instances where they have sent me strange facebook
chats or what have you, but the fact that this is a sighted dude on my
campus who is going after a specific disability is really creepy to me
and I do not feel comfortable about it.  Advice?  Also, I do
understand that this topic kind of verges on adult conversations, but
please keep your responses G or PG as I do not intend to break any
list guidelines and nothing grossly inappropriate has happened here.